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Cccrrrttt · 07/02/2025 08:38

I feel so icky with myself. My ex and co-parent has told me he isn't currently seeing anyone - I asked because I wanted to clarify that before he introduces anyone to our 9 month old son, I would like to be informed and vice versa.

However, I feel like he's lying. He told me he doesn't have the money to even be seeing anyone and reiterated that if and when he starts seeing someone and its serious enough to introduce our son, he will tell me.

I have seen online that he started following someone new in his new area, and he even speaks like her now. His best friend and her started following eachother, and her friend and my ex started following eachother.

I feel like an obsessed psycho that I dug enough to even know this. I should be well rid of him considering how he treated me. But now he's indifferent and I'm the one obsessing.

I feel sick that he might be seeing someone, even though he was already seeing my 'friend' whilst I was pregnant. This new girl seems outgoing, comical, shes into fitness, shes stunning and has a really fun happy vibe. Everything I'm not 😩 I feel awful about myself that I am so obsessed and stalkery but also that I shouldn't even be giving him a second thought?

I think its because I'm worried he will treat her properly, unlike me. I am also the only one of his harem that he didnt make his official girlfriend, although so far hes treated us all like crap.

Why did the other girls become girlfriends and got gifts and I never did? Does this mean that I really was the problem?

How do I move on? It's been over a year already 🥴 therapy doesnt seem to be helping yet. I most of my friends because of how I became during our relationship and also him turning people against me.

I feel like I am acting narcissistically - feeling jealous even though we arent together, basically stalking him online etc 😩 how do I cope with this?

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GoldMoon · 07/02/2025 08:43

It doesn't sound like you and him ever had a proper relationship.
The good thing that came out of it was your son.
To move forward , don't look upon him as an ex , someone to miss and be sad when you learn he treats other women nicer than you .
Look upon him as the sperm donor . Plain and simple.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 07/02/2025 08:44

Stop following him online completely. Get on with your life, you’ve got a lot to learn and to enjoy. Develop a hobby and do some free online qualifications if you need to broaden career choices. Put your child first and be the adult. Doesn’t matter what he does. Your child won’t know any of this in 18 years but they will know they had a Mum that put him first not wasting time following immature boys on social media. Get out there!!!!

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