Frustrated with current situation

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So I'm kind of in a bit of a rut in life. Have been for the past 6 months. Kind of feeling like I'm not getting anywhere in life. 37 female. Have a son. Single. Overweight and have about 2 stone to lose. Currently living with parents to try and save up but the saving up is a very slow process. Frustrated with the situation although extremely grateful to family. I work but slowly losing my love for the job. Have qualifications etc just no decent jobs going around here. Started a health amd wellness coaching course so will hopefully complete that soon. Have a background in holistic therapy, mental health, carework. I miss having my own place. I'm isolating myself and currently just feeling the depression seeping in, even though I know i have a lot to be thankful for. I've been eating healthy for a few weeks now and hardly seen much difference at all. Thats getting me down. And just feel like I'm retreating into myself just a bit too much. Don't have many people to talk to tbh and yeah just feel pretty low at the moment with my situation.

Anyone else in the same boat?

Sorry to hear you’re feeling down x
I find exercise particularly outside (green spaces preferably ) helps massively !
Are you on meds ?
I find a few supplements help me - magnesium , vit d and aahwaghanda .
Are they any cheap / free groups you would enjoy ? eg reading , knitting ? (These are 2 i enjoy )
All the best

I'm sorry you're feeling down. It's awful not having your own place and it must be very frustrating.

You're making progress though! Your coaching course sounds very positive and your background is interesting.

Don't expect immediate results from your healthy eating as even if it doesn't show it will have a massive impact. You'll start feeling better.

Have you tried meetup.com to see what's going on in your area? They have a weekly walk near me, which I keep meaning to go to but something like that might be beneficial.

@Jenkibubble thank you so much for your reply. Exercise is something I definitely need to work on. I've just bought myself a walking pad, I've got dumbells etc. so there's really no excuse for me not to be working out. And definitely should be going out for walks more. Probably just doing them would make such a huge difference to how I feel . I'm on citalopram 20mg at the moment. And I take quite a few vitamins everyday - vitamin d, omega 3, magnesium and zinc, and turmeric:) i have a couple of hobbies i enjoy but I don't think there are any groups where I'm from tbh, I do tend to be socially awkward and shy as well so that doesnt help. I've been pretty healthy past few weeks after Christmas, just frustrating that I feel worse for it if anything :/

Well done on being proactive !

Im not massively sociable either - really have to force myself and do feel better for it rather than spending the day having not interacted with anyone .
Volunteering is something I really enjoy too (I serve drinks at a homeless shelter ) just a few days a month - lovely staff and service users too !
I too dislike my job but needs must :( and I think I’ve taken up new things to compensate for the dullness !

@username299 hi thank you! Yes extremely frustrating😫 it was because my landlord kept upping the rent and it got too expensive and there's nowhere cheaper to rent at the moment. Just really missing that independence and my own space.
Yes the coaching I've only just started but love the course so far! :) I'm on the verge of giving up the healthy eating as I feel so much worse since cutting back on the sugar ( I went totally overboard with chocolate over christmas!) I've been so good past few weeks I know I need to just keep going. My sleep has been pretty poor for a few weeks now as well which is unlike me, usually I sleep really well.
I've been suffering with eczema as well for as lo g as I can remember, absolutely nothing I try helps either sonthats really getting me down.
I have searched meetup.com , last time I checked there was nothing around my area but I will have another look:)

Sleep is so important. I know you take magnesium but you could also try magnesium flakes in your bath before bed. If it doesn't irritate your eczema.

Have you tried any apps? I use Headspace, it has guided meditations and stories to help you sleep. You can get headband earphones for bed.

It might be worth doing an elimination diet to see if anything triggers your eczema. This might be useful.

There might be walking groups near you that aren't on meetup. Facebook or even your GP surgery could have details. It's a great way of being around people and helps with the isolation.

@Jenkibubble volunteering is something I'd consider actually. I think like you said its a matter of forcing myself to be a bit more sociable. My work allows me to meet a few different people, most of my service users are lovely:) ive just isolated myself a bit too much I think . I like my own company but I know I need to get out there as well

@username299 oooh thank you for the link! I've tried goats milk, lactofree milk, oat/almond milks, cutting out eggs, I was prescribed steroid cream from GP it worked for a bit but not good long term and it came back even worse, cetraben, dermalex🙈nothings working.

I've always been such a good sleeper until recently no idea why. .magnesium flakes ill give them a try! I bought magnesium oil spray a while ago to spray on the bottom of your feet before bed apparently that's supposed to help as well.
I love listening to guided meditations before bed:) but I just use YouTube . A d the headband earphones is somethi g ill definitely look into buying actually!

You really can do as much or little as you want - could start small and build it up as you gain confidence / if you enjoy it .

I think there are some websites which link you to organisations in your area .

Diet wise , I’ve really upped my protein and it helps curb hunger / snacking !