Had PND after the birth of DS. Have been on 20mg Citalopram for over a year and really feel that I've come through it and am so much better. However, my self confidence has taken a serious knocking (weight issues not helping) and I think its affecting how people treat me and I want to change that.
For example, saw SIL last week and was talking to her about my weight. I asked her jokingly oh does bil think I eat too much? She said he did so I laughed and said oooh, what did he say? She rather condescendingly replied oh I really don't have the time or the inclination to remember a conversation we have had about you and your food, quite frankly I don't want to waste the brain power and I was just as I thought that was a totally uncalled for comment and its not the first time its happened. I came back from holiday with a fake ring and cheerfully showed it to her to which she replied oh it looks like a £3.99 piece from Accessorize - absolutely no need for comments like that.
I spoke to DH about it and he said I kind of set myself up for comments like that because I'm conscious of my weight etc and so because I mention it, people feel they can make comments.
Its not just the weight issue though, I went to see MIL a few weeks ago and she came into the guest room and started moaning about the state of DH's (not mine!!) suitcase and saying how I should pack neatly and she started to take everything out and refold it...I was like what gives you the f'ing right to think you can do that? Then I had his family on at me about why I wanted to put DS in a car seat for every journey (they don't use them in their country) and why I was so stressed about DS being on their balconies and instead of showing solidarity with me over obvious safety issues, I then had to contend with DH saying oh a small journey without a car seat won't hurt or whats the big deal about a balcony
So, if you've got this far without falling asleep, why the hell am I getting walked over like this????!!!!