I started dating my boyfriend last April. At the start everything was great. Although he did tell me after 3 weeks he loved me which i did think was very quick.
Over time i picked up he had some kind of hot and coldness towards me. I couldnt help think it was me, he was going off me. I later found out he was on antidepressants because of a bad breakup 5 years previous. He assured me he was completely over it and in no way still affected by it. As time goes on, i notice things like he would get very stressed at small situations. He would get stressed if he thought i had a tone or what he thought was 'quiet' or didnt reply back in a certain time frame.
If i brought up situations that i was annoyed about, or didnt like certain things he had been dishonest with me about he would tell me that i didnt understand him and point blame onto me. This would happen several times. He would hold onto this and say i didnt understand him. I would constantly feel unheard.
Just there in october he had an operation and his mood had went down after it. He was having issues with his ex and seeing his child.
This went on until recently.
At the weekend i had a pregnancy scare and that set him off the edge. He took a bad depressive episode and had withdrawn from me. I felt very hurt by his reaction as i was not expecting that and was still trying to be very compassionate to his mental health. Hes brought up to me again tonight that me bringing up anything that im upset about makes him feel like he isnt good enough for me. In the past he has made references that hes not rich like my exs or thinks hes not good enough.
I have never made him feel like he isnt good enough. Ive reassured him lots he is.
Im always helping him, assuring him, giving him advice as best as i can etc
From chatting about his ex, she put him down, cheated on him etc
Ive said for months about gym being good for mental health but he didnt try going back.
I really want to help him, but im beginning to think I cant when hes stuck with those thoughts.