34F, moved back with my mom and her brother and sister in a multi family house, 4 floors each persons has their own floor. I moved back because my grandparents died the last one passed away from omricon in 2022 and it’s been a living nightmare since then. They left no will, and they are 7 years away from paying off this house!! I decided hey why don’t I move in and help out with the mortgage and stuff….. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE.
Today my mother decided to once again cross boundaries and touch my stuff. I have probably told her about 30+ times in the last year to stop touching my things. Why? BECAUSE SHE RUIN THEM! Like how she purposely have a spare key and went into my room when I went on vacation and took my Intimate wear like lingeries and put them in water out in the sun to soak for three days and ruined them. The colors bled over each other. I confronted her and ask her WHY WOULD SHE TOUCH SOMETHING SO PERSONAL. she had no answer but said to me “why are you being like that, it’s not like anyone’s going to see it on you, who are u wearing them for?”
Now let’s get on to today. I woke up from a nap hearing my mother in my kitchen on the top floor, she LIVES ON THE BOTTOM FLOOR. Ever since I confronted my narc mother about her behaviors I will not tolerate anymore she up her ante of hovering. I hear my dishes in the sink scrambling around, I ran to the kitchen and told her that she better not be washing my dishes and touching my stuff. She said she wasn’t she came to get her dish she gave mea burrito she made in it. I said okay good. I have a faux fur rug that I need to take to shakeout and vacuum it a bit to have it dry cleaned, I specifically said this to her on New Year’s Day, and to not to touch it.
Because I told this vindictive bitch not to touch the plates in the sink (cuz I’m a grown ass woman, go downstairs and mind ur business and leave the plates I literally just had lunch with in the sink) she took the carpet that was in the bag…. I noticed it was missing and went down to her to see where it was. Lo and Behold, she took my carpet and have it in the washtub SOAKING!!! Ruining the Faux Fur completely when the label instructions clearly said DO NOT WASH! DRY CLEAN ONLY! I once again confronted her. I was so upset and frustrated and told her that her and her family have no respect for anyone’s boundaries, they have zero sense of principle. Because all she kept saying was that I’m acting up for no reason over some cheap looking shit. It wasn’t cheap! The original price was $300 I got it on sale for $50 because it was finally out of season and double marked down and it took me three months to find this shade of rose gold pink that matches my bed set and curtains it was perfect and Beautiful with different shades of pastel pink and hint of white. As I was coming upstairs all I kept hearing her saying is “$50” “$50” “going crazy over “$50” I went back downstairs and told her I see right thru her covert manipulation and gaslighting. That’s when she blurt out and told me THAT SHE IS NOT MY MOTHER. so you know what….
Not only that! But she comes up here with some granny looking plate and vase and place them in the middle of my dinning room table!!! I remove them and set it to a corner forgetting to bring them back down to her yesterday, I came to find the plate and vase right back on the dinning room table!!!
Instead of acting hurt, I helped her made it official, thank god I don’t have her name, I told her don’t reach out to me, don’t offer me shit, I gave her back everything and starting to lock the middle door that goes down to the other floors.
Message I’m trying to say DO NOT BACK DOWN! ONCE U STAND UP FOR URSELF THATS NOT THE END OF IT! IT WILL BECOME SO MUCH MORE CHALLENGING WITH THEM BUT I BEG OF U ALL YO STAND UR GROUND AND STAY FUCKING UNAPOLOGETIC!! THE WORLD WILL NOT END IF U STAND UP TO THEM AND CUT THEM OFF.
That being said.. I’m saving up extra hard and moving the fuck out of here in silence.. I could give two shits if they lose this house. 🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽