I was very badly treated by a so called close friend a few months ago. I tried really hard to sort the situation out but it was impossible. I therefore made the decision to make some changes so that we no longer have any activities in common and won’t see each other again which was definitely the right decision as no positive ongoing relationship was possible so we had to draw a line.
So all is finished and we have moved on.
Except I can’t stop ruminating about how much they hurt me and let me down when we were still in the situation. It’s on my mind all the time- almost like an obsession. I know it’s not normal but I don’t know how to stop it.
I’ve really invested in my other friendships, made positive changes to my life in general and do loads of fulfilling things. I have a great family. There is nothing wrong with my life and I am very happy!
So how do I stop ruminating on the past after months have gone by and finally move
on? Any techniques would be great as this is driving me mad.