Conflict with 50/50 parenting

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My daughter now regrets having 50/50 as her ex is not adhering to the contract that they signed! Their daughter who is awaiting autism diagnosis returns to her smelly and suffering from sleep deprivation as a result of being allowed to stay up till all hours and is not being given Melatonin prescribed by GP! The child is obviously suffering and in a state of severe distress! Her elder brother is witnessing this too but is better able to cope. What advice can I give as a grandparent? My daughter is at her wits end!

It the contact court ordered?

I would advise her to speak to a solicitor to seek advice about returning to court.

My situation was that we had court ordered 50/50 which for 18 months was an absolute nightmare for my DC.

ExH was not administering prescribed inhaler on his days because he did not believe that DC had asthma, DC was awaiting autism assessment and really struggling at school, exH was not letting her stay up until really late and no routine.

I successfully managed to change the arrangements from 50/50 to every other weekend with her dad in term time and half term holidays. All other holidays are still 50/50. This has made a huge difference to DC.