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Looking for advice/tips

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bpaqua · 03/01/2025 21:58

Hi everyone,

Not sure how to begin this but just need to know there’s maybe someone out there who can relate.

I was diagnosed as Bipolar when I was 21, I’m now 34.

Following years of abuse, I met the most amazing man who is now my husband.

We have been saving for a house by staying with his family. This has over time caused my mental health to deteriorate.

I’m used to my own space and I feel like I’ve lost my mind and I’m ashamed to say that I have been taking it out on my husband of 3 months.

Following an argument, I felt like I was having a breakdown. I couldn’t breathe through tears and started to pull my own hair. He told me to stop and I don’t know how it happened but I then said ‘Stop’ and push my arm down in frustration and ending up hitting him on the arm.

He and his family have asked me to leave and I have.

I don’t dispute that I’ve been hard to be around the last couple of weeks/months and I’m not looking for sympathy. This is my own doing.

I’m just wondering if any of you have experienced any bouts of overwhelming frustration where you lose control in a sense?

I feel the living situation has got to me but it’s hard to be rational.

I am determined to improve my mental health so that I can be the best version of myself again. (The woman my husband fell in love with).

Some things I’ve already put on the list of things to help

  • Sobriety
  • Attending my psychiatrist appointment
  • Journalling my feelings

Does anyone have any other tips of how they’ve helped themselves and managed their mental health?

OP posts:
username299 · 04/01/2025 06:06

Have you had any specialist therapy to deal with the abuse?
Have you heard of DBT? It might help you better learn to regulate your emotions.

You need to better understand your triggers and find strategies to deal with them way before you lose control.

Stopping drinking sounds like a great start.

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