Friend keeps lyeing and exaggerating illness

[Exposingliars]

My friend has lied about her child having meningitis she has said that she also had it the same time and was on tablets for it. A few weeks later she posted on social media that she has meningitis and she hopes she won't pass it onto her child.i commented on it saying she had told me 4 weeks earlier they had meningitis. Lately she always seems to be a victim in life with everything. I've noticed loads of lies telling me she barely drinks anymore but she's always drunk. She told me she has cancer and it needs to be removed. She told me she had to go to loads of emergency appts and test. I believe that partially there's some truth. I believe there maybe a lump but it's not cancerous. Since telling me she's had cancer she's been drinking wine regularly. She's lost custody of her child years ago and still in denial telling me she has shared custody when she has to visit via a contact centre. She didn't tell me she went to prison and lost her liscence through drink driving she says she can't drive atm due to the medication she's on. she has told me a few different stories which she's forgotten her own lies. She is so vindictive crying whilst telling me that I believed her but nothing adds up with her. She had her nails done by someone who she said she hated. She always makes out other people are bad people and bad mothers when they have their kids she's lost custody of hers. She lied about having a promotion in work and made out she will be getting loads more money. She won't admit her lies she even went to the hospital for something to try to prove to me she wasn't lyeing her arm was bandaged up so I responded to her and said this doesn't prove to me you have meningitis and you can't have it twice in a few weeks this suggests you've done something to your arm maybe self inflicted. She sent me a wrist band with her details on with the date hidden. I believe it's a band from another date it has her name on it but not all of it was visible. She's so adamant she's not lyeing but nothing adds up. When she rang I answered and she used my past against me it was an attack on me because ive caught her out on her lies she brought up my past someo e who im not anymore and i ha ent drank in years. I have blocked her and will never speak to her again because I don't believe her she's lied too much I don't know what parts are true anymore

It’s good that you have ended a friendship with someone whose behaviour bothers you so much.

You have posted this in Mentsl Health so fo you think your friend has MH issues which are leading to her lying?

Itthink it is related to mental health. The lies seem to be much more the past year she forgets which story she's told me compulsive lyeing even when I caught her out with her messages of her saying she had meningitis weeks ago but saying she has it now i even said so youve had it twice and she denies having ot the first time. She continued lyeing she said she had it and lied to me saying she didn't say that when I have the messages that says she has it and taking antibiotics . She's always a victim in her life nothing is her fault even though she keeps making bad choices. I have tried helping her stop her alcohol abuse by getting her to train with me everyday. She lasted 2 weeks. She has literally cried her eyes out to me whilst telling me these stories .I can't believe anyone would go this far and to check herself into hospital then send me a video of her with a bandage on her arm I feel she has done something to herself to try get out of the lies and with the hope that I would believe her to make out im a bad person for calling her out on her lies because she's already told me 4 weeks ago she and her child who she doesnt have custody of anymore had meningitis. I spoke to a close family member who warned me that she's a compulsive liar and not to believe a word she says. I even asked her to tell me the truth and she only tried to lie her way out and go to further lengths to convince me she has meningitis. I believe she needs help and I've told her this too but she always plays victim and called me evil. I can't be a friend after this it's gone too far but I do want her to get help but I don't think she ever will because she makes out she's doing better than what she is in life she is in denial of her alcohol and drug problem. I went to her flat once and it was like a crack den empty baggies everywhere, rubbish everywhere about 50 empty bottles of wine. It was extremely dirty. This is another reason why I think she has a mental illness as she abuses drugs and alcohol. She's even rang me up telling me her neighbours talking about her and just really odd things all her exes were apparently toxic but I believe she's the toxic one because she accuses all of them of cheating and questioning their whereabouts. she's tcaused scenes at restauraunts when she didn't have enough to pay for the meal and told them she would go back to pay 10p or whatever then claimed they were harsh when she's banned from a lot of places or refuses to go back to because she has kicked off there. Like everything she's told me this year has made me question everything she's ever told me in the past and even though I've blocked her I want to understand why she's done this and why she couldn't just tell me the truth and try get help for what she's doing

From what you've posted, yes, it appears she's a compulsive liar. You have the correct measure of her and decided the friendship is over which is your perogative and is not unreasonable.

Your friend believes her lies or at least won't admit she's lying. There's nothing you can do about that so you just need to move on with your life.

I think you need to ask yourself why you're so keen to get her to admit to the lies? Isn't it enough to just cut contact and move on with your life?

She’s hit bottom. She will need a lot of help to resurface, but you aren’t the one to do that- it needs to be someone impartial, and more importantly, she needs to want help.

If she’s drinking as much as you say, she won’t last forever. Sad, but that’s the harsh truth.

if she admit she's lied to me about thing and the reasons behind why then I will help her get the support she needed if it's what she wanted. but now that she hasn't and continuing to lie to me a d make up more lies i've cut all ties completely and I feel a bit guilty because I've known her for years

I can’t read all of that but from skim reading some of it I see she’s an alcoholic who has lost custody of her child and done prison time. Add in lying for attention, why the hell is she your friend? She sounds like a scumbag. Get rid.