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Homeless soon because of stepfather?

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hberry · 30/12/2024 20:01

Hello everyone. I am in my twenties and currently live with my mam. My "stepdad" who is a selfish alcoholic moved out a while back but him and my mam are not divorced just separated. He’s paid 2 years of his rent upfront with the money he received and STILL he isn’t paying his tax bill (he’s self employed) because of how immature and reckless he is, he'd rather spend hundreds on drink, cigarettes and video games his new obsession His name is on the mortgage along with my mams, and we can’t change it to my name until March due to financial crisis he got the family household into, because of his reckless spending and alcoholism we had to get an IVA, and that’s why we can’t change the name on the mortgage until March/april. My mam is terrified we’ll lose the house because he won’t pay his bills and/or declare himself bankrupt because he’s already saying he’s going to stop working as he wants to sleep and drink all day. He's awful. On top of this I am in the process of changing jobs. I'm worried about my mams stress levels and the rest of us as. Also just to add my mam only works part time due to disability and other responsibilities, I'm now full time and help with the mortgage payments and whatever else, she asked if she could just take over completely and apparently she can't due to part time work.

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DooDooDooDooDooDooDooDoo · 30/12/2024 20:07

You can't just take someone off the mortgage.

How much is left on the mortgage? Are they going to get a divorce? If so then there will have to be a discussion and agreement about finances. It might be best if the house is sold so they don't have to live together.

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:09

DooDooDooDooDooDooDooDoo · 30/12/2024 20:07

You can't just take someone off the mortgage.

How much is left on the mortgage? Are they going to get a divorce? If so then there will have to be a discussion and agreement about finances. It might be best if the house is sold so they don't have to live together.

Hi, they don't live together he moved out a while back, he is happy to be taken off the mortgage but we can't until March

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JimHalpertsWife · 30/12/2024 20:09

What makes you think he will agree to just sign his half of the house over to you?

Anonym00se · 30/12/2024 20:10

Sorry, you say “we had to get an IVA”? Who has the IVA? You, your Mum or your stepdad, or do all three of you have one?

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:10

JimHalpertsWife · 30/12/2024 20:09

What makes you think he will agree to just sign his half of the house over to you?

He said he will do that but it's in the meantime we're worried about, he's reckless and is saying he's not paying bills and doesn't want to go to work

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JimHalpertsWife · 30/12/2024 20:11

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:10

He said he will do that but it's in the meantime we're worried about, he's reckless and is saying he's not paying bills and doesn't want to go to work

And you trust the word of an alcoholic in debt?

What happens when he realises he can force the sale and take half the equity?

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:12

Anonym00se · 30/12/2024 20:10

Sorry, you say “we had to get an IVA”? Who has the IVA? You, your Mum or your stepdad, or do all three of you have one?

Sorry I should of clarified, the iva is in my mam and her husbands name

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hberry · 30/12/2024 20:12

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:01

Hello everyone. I am in my twenties and currently live with my mam. My "stepdad" who is a selfish alcoholic moved out a while back but him and my mam are not divorced just separated. He’s paid 2 years of his rent upfront with the money he received and STILL he isn’t paying his tax bill (he’s self employed) because of how immature and reckless he is, he'd rather spend hundreds on drink, cigarettes and video games his new obsession His name is on the mortgage along with my mams, and we can’t change it to my name until March due to financial crisis he got the family household into, because of his reckless spending and alcoholism we had to get an IVA, and that’s why we can’t change the name on the mortgage until March/april. My mam is terrified we’ll lose the house because he won’t pay his bills and/or declare himself bankrupt because he’s already saying he’s going to stop working as he wants to sleep and drink all day. He's awful. On top of this I am in the process of changing jobs. I'm worried about my mams stress levels and the rest of us as. Also just to add my mam only works part time due to disability and other responsibilities, I'm now full time and help with the mortgage payments and whatever else, she asked if she could just take over completely and apparently she can't due to part time work.

I should add the IVA is now paid off, but it's due to it being on your credit score for 6 years

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DooDooDooDooDooDooDooDoo · 30/12/2024 20:13

Who is on the deeds?

HPandthelastwish · 30/12/2024 20:17

This is not your issue.

You need to get yourself in a position to live independently, perhaps in a two bed that your mum can move into with you when she has sorted out her house. Although she may benefit more from supported housing.

hberry · 30/12/2024 20:20

@JimHalpertsWife so my mam got a separation letter from the solicitor and gave him £40,000 what was owed, which he used to pay off even more debt he had himself into and 2 years off his rent upfront. However now he's starting again.

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hberry · 30/12/2024 20:21

@DooDooDooDooDooDooDooDoo currently her and her husband

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