I met my partner 7 years ago and we love going out every month to a reggae dance. However recently I've found that I have become self conscious when out. I really look forward to going out and when I'm getting ready I'm excited and I think I look ok but when I get to the venue I start to think I look horrible and spend the evening with my head down and not enjoying the night because I feel horrible about myself. The next day is even worse I feel depressed and start thinking I looked awful last night and then I start thinking about things I can change with my looks. I hate feeling like this it's ruining my fun.
I am 40 but I have good genes from my mum I have no wrinkles I go to the gym 4 times a week so I don't think my body is that bad, i eat really well. I don't feel or look 40 but I hate feeling like this.
What can I do where do i start to work on myself?