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Worried about partners mental health

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MrsM74 · 27/12/2024 11:05

my partner had an altercation with someone years and years ago. This person ended up imprisoned for violent conduct and my partner fears him. Over the years he’s made the odd reference to him ‘watching us’ and asked me to block him on social media. I don’t know the guy but he lives locally. I was sending myself some photos from his phone today when I noticed screenshots of notes he has made in his phone. These notes are so worrying. They are basically saying this person has possibly caused the death of a relative (they were elderly and died from a fall) and that friends are involved in some sort of conspiracy.
I had no idea things have escalated in his mind like this. He has been watching a lot of programmes on crime and murder etc. I thought initially the notes were written after a few drinks but one of them was written in the middle of the day. He outwardly shows no sign of being paranoid… he has a good job, is a loving partner and father to our 3 small kids and coaches and plays sports.
this has come as a complete shock to me and I don’t know what to do? Do I just monitor it and see if it gets worse? Do I speak to someone about it? I’m so worried for him. Any advice please 🙏

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Eyesopenwideawake · 27/12/2024 13:07

Speak to him first and foremost. If he's watching a lot of crime programmes he might conceivably be trying to write one (and that's a possible option in starting the conversation - say that you saw his notes and wondered if they'd make a good TV show or book). Take it slow, be neutral and non judgemental. It might be an overactive imagination or something that needs professional help. Either way, talk to him.

MrsM74 · 27/12/2024 13:29

Eyesopenwideawake · 27/12/2024 13:07

Speak to him first and foremost. If he's watching a lot of crime programmes he might conceivably be trying to write one (and that's a possible option in starting the conversation - say that you saw his notes and wondered if they'd make a good TV show or book). Take it slow, be neutral and non judgemental. It might be an overactive imagination or something that needs professional help. Either way, talk to him.

Thank you. I’m 💯 sure it’s not that. Just from the context of what he has written about friends and family. 😔

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