What should I do?

[Micafromph]

I'm due really soon but I don't have any money to the hospital, I don't even have any relatives and practically alone. The farther of my child is a piece of turd, should I accept defeat or keep fighting? I'm scared

Not really sure what you mean about admitting defeat or keeping fighting. Keep fighting what?

Keep fighting. ❤️

Are there any friends, work colleagues you can ask for help?
Charities? Work out what you need?

Best wishes

Admit defeat on what?

What exactly are you battling @Micafromph

You’re bringing a life into this world. From this day until your last you must keep putting one foot in front of the other. Don’t rely on other people. Rely on yourself so that anything else is a bonus.
You got this.

On life

Please contact your midwife OP and let them know what is going on, they can help you x

Speak to your midwife OP. She can point you in the direction of a large range of services which will help you. Everyone wants you to thrive and make a success of motherhood and they will help you access tools and support to do this.

Arrange to speak to your midwife, let her know you are struggling financially and have no support from the baby’s father. She can help you access benefits and a host of other things.

You will get through this difficult period and things will be brighter again.

There's no value to comments like this, you're not required to answer so you're being nasty just for the hell of it.

Are you having suicidal thoughts, OP? Do you have someone you can reach out to, a trusted friend or loved one?

You're in a bad place now, but as impossible as it might seem you wont be in this place forever. Giving up on life isn't the answer. Please reach out to your midwife and tell them honestly how much you are struggling and that you have no money. There are people that can help you, your midwife should be able to help you to access those supports. Focus on your little one, one foot in front of the other, you get through moment by moment, you can survive this and things will get better and one day you'll be glad you and your little one got through this together.

@EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness I’m not being nasty at all. It’s a genuine question and I’ll answer whenever I want to

She's due soon, so the only thing saying this does is make her feel bad and she's got way too much of that already, so it is cruel and judgemental.

@EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness I’m not being judgemental! I’m asking a bloody question

It really does beg the question why you are having a baby. So many posts here in a similar vein it's like all rational and reasonable thoughts have left half the populations brain.
I am so sorry you're feeling like this op but unless you take some control and responsibility things will never change.
Please see your GP or chat to friends/ ring 111 and get some help.

Phone 111 or your GP for support re the pregnancy.
Phone Samaritans if you're struggling emotionally and just need to talk.
Ignore unhelpful comments.

Oh fuck off @Dita73 🙄

This will get better OP xx

Speak to your midwife, you can't be the first woman to give birth who would struggle to make it to hospital.

Have you made sure you are aware of the benefits you can claim once your baby is here? Universal credit and child benefit you will likely be entitled to if your are struggling to afford transport?

I'm sure if you feel up to talking about your practical circumstances, we can pitch in and make suggestions which might help.

Forget the sperm donor, you're going to be a mum soon to a beautiful baby, you can and will get through this

@SilverDoe classy 👌🏻

Being helpful can be considered classy. You are being unhelpful to someone who sounds like they are in a low place and kicking them when they're down. You're not exactly excuberating class yourself and are coming across nasty. Exactly what do you think asking someone, imminently due their baby, what they are having it for will achieve?

@ChaosHol1 it will answer my question

I actually think that asking why op is having the baby is a good question - presumably at some point she decided to keep it and refocusing on those reasons may give hope and meaning in this dark time.

Speak to your midwife asap. She’ll help you make a plan to get to hospital xx
Focus on your baby and don’t waste a second’s thought on your turdy ex. A new year will be starting soon - a fresh start for you and your coming baby.

I know it’s hard to see the light when you’re in a dark place, but it’s there. You just need someone (your midwifery team, etc) to lead you to it. There are people you can talk to day and night and they’re waiting to support you. Give them a call. You’re not alone xx

What is the op supposed to do? Magic up a Bernard's watch and time travel backwards? 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️🙄It's done. Things happen. If you've got no decent advice then kindly STFU.