Struggling with the feeling you have upset / hurt someone

[Orangesandlemons77]

I struggle with people's emotions and feeling that I have unwittingly upset / hurt someone. Does anyone else get this?

I think it may go back to childhood, my mum would often give me the silent treatment over nothing and if I asked I was told 'if you don't know why I am not going to tell you" I'm NC with her due in part to this and other stuff over the years.

I need to stop feeling so responsible for others feelings. it makes me wary of getting close to others.

What evidence do you have that you have upset or hurt someone? Do they tell you or show you in some way or are you second guessing, as you had to when you were younger?

(I'm glad your mother is no longer in your life, btw).

Thanks for the reply.

It's nothing really. I shared something online, and someone replied to say it was 'really upsetting' to them.

I'm now taking this personally, then getting a bit cross with myself for feeling like that!

Daft isn't it really. I am going to try and sit with the feelings and let it go, and also just remind myself not to share things with them in future.

I thunk possibly Christmas is also feeding into it, obviously I am not seeing my mum, who may be alone (I'm not sure) and I'm feeling that again. (upsetting her)

Christmas can be a difficult time can't it.

Was it something that you could have reasonably expected them to be upset by? If yes, then apologise. If not then quietly unfollow them so they don't get upset in future.

It was something general but did also have reference to something relevant to the person which triggered them, I think. It was a positive article though.

I have apologised and will move on.