Lonely mum in new area and hate it

[Cat1990mumof4]

Me and my partner moved to a new area a year ago with our 4 children and he loves it and I absolutely hate it I miss where we used to live so much and I have no friends or family nearby and no parents at the school chat to me so feeling really isolated. Have mentioned to my partner I would like to move back but he said the area was awful and absolutely loves living here and will not go back.

Oh lovely, that’s so sad. It often feels like you are the only one who other no one to talk to on the school run but I promise you won’t be! How are the kids settling down - do they have play dates? Maybe you can get to know mums by organising some play dates - actively invite them to step in for a cuppa rather than just dump and run.

Is there a class WhatsApp? Ask the teacher or PTA or class parent rep. It’s worth being brave and posting there (especially for younger kids, if you have any) and ask if anyone would fancy a walk/ bike ride/ trip to the park/ meet up over Xmas hols at the local soft play.

Guess you have your plate full with 4 kids but any chance you could join the PTA committee or help out at scouts or beavers?

A year isn’t long to embed yourself in a new community - you just need to find your feet and your people.

Is there anything you can do to alleviate the loneliness such as support groups, volunteering or getting involved with the PTA? Perhaps a night class, book group, gym class etc

The children seem to have settled quite well my eldest 2 are in the secondary school and my little girl is in year 2 and my youngest is still home with me as she’s only 21 months old. I tried one mum and baby group with her and all the other mums sat in a circle chatting and all knew each other and I sat on the outside. Thankyou for your lovely messages it’s nice to feel not so alone