Andysmanclub

[Motherdoingitonherown]

I’m writing this mother to mother, I am the mother to Andy’s only child who Andy’smanclub “is in memory of”. The club is potentially going to kill my little girl for years she has struggled with the consistent reminder in her face everywhere she goes on top of the grief she’s autistic. She’s been bullied in school at the fact her daddy killed himself due to her asd she can’t control her emotions when children wear the wristbands etc so thankfully her primary school has banned it as they have also recognised it as a damaging trigger but I’m terrified for high school as you can understand. Last month she tried taking her own life again running into a main road after seeing a car sticker and now under camhs crisis team as she wants to be with her dad. I have begged the family for years to change the name/logo but keep the club as it is a fantastic idea but apparently “you can’t change the name/it’s too much work” I have all the proof of this. Her camhs crisis support worker said to me she thought the club was amazing until meeting my daughter and seeing what damage it has/is doing to her but that’s the problem no one knows so I’m not keeping my mouth closed anymore I’ve done my best to protect her for the past 8 years with no support but the club is only growing bigger and so is she to the world.
I need to protect to my daughter so this is a plea mother to mother please stop promoting/driving round with the Andy’smanclub stickers although it might be helping other my innocent 10 year old daughter shouldn’t be at that cost.
feel free to share the dark truth and any recommendations… what would you do if it was your daughter ?

I get where you’re coming from but sadly she’s autistic and very literal in right from wrong and she knows how she’s been treated is not right cahms have even stated this, the fact that she says the idea of the club is amazing but they use my daddy’s name and don’t care about me hurts her a lot ie the rejection and that reminder everywhere. I’ve been asking for over 5 years for them to change the club to protect her as I could see it upsetting her at a young age she’s asked for the past 2 herself after the bullying that unfortunately keeps happening as kids can be very cruel and they know it hurts her… sadly they have nothing else to use but this could have been avoided if they did in fact care for her before it blew up so big to change but what people portray online isn’t always true is all I’ll say.
she doesn’t want anything to do with her grandma again now and never had a close relationship with the rest of them so whatever they do is on them she knows her dad wouldn’t have wanted her going through this & she knows I’ve got her back above anything or anyone so it’s just finding a location where the club isn’t around and moving so she can heal

The problem with moving to a new place where there isn't a club is that they're popping up all the time, so you could move and they open one the following week.

A fresh start for her could be good however where none of the kids know she has any link to the club whatsoever, so no bullying about it- neither of you would have to tell a soul about it.