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CBT for OCD and Anxiety

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SunshineFlowersFood · 02/12/2024 23:43

Im starting CBT for OCD and Anxiety. My boyfriend said I need to stop overthinking and I said yes that's what the CBT will help with as it helps you break you cycle of thinking and before I could finish he said "see, you know what you need to do and I keep telling you this bit you don't listen"...he went on and on and basically implied I'm stupid for getting help. He did apologise and say that he just hoped he could have helped me (he's not got any experience in mental health). I feel miserable about it and silly and feel like what's the point it won't work anyway. I already had my doubts as I'd been on a path to become a counsellor before and so know the models etc but it was a long time ago and I feel a trained psychologist will help me apply them.

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FionaSkates · 03/12/2024 11:18

If you broke your leg would you feel silly for getting it set, and cast, and even operated on if necessary? Absolutely not.

This is exactly the same thing; appropriate medical treatment for what is frankly a really disabling condition. If your boyfriend wants to do you a favour, he can read the book ‘Overcoming OCD’ by Professor Veale. If he isn’t prepared to educate himself I would query whether he really wants to help you or is just running scared from something he doesn’t understand.

Wishing you all the best with your treatment xx

DatingDinosaur · 03/12/2024 11:24

Ditch the boyfriend and your OCD and anxiety will improve.

He sounds like he has a touch of OCD himself, either that or is controlling and has to have the last word.

DatingDinosaur · 03/12/2024 11:26

Oh, and the CBT will help you but it is YOUR journey. Your boyfriend doesn't get a say in whether it will or won't work, in what timescale then do an "I told you so". He's the one making you doubt yourself.

FionaSkates · 03/12/2024 11:34

DatingDinosaur · 03/12/2024 11:24

Ditch the boyfriend and your OCD and anxiety will improve.

He sounds like he has a touch of OCD himself, either that or is controlling and has to have the last word.

I wanted to say this but didn’t have the balls! It doesn’t sound like it is going to work if he basically doesn’t even make an effort to understand what you are going through. Plenty of nicer boyfriends out there!

HangingOver · 03/12/2024 11:38

I feel like with CBT "it" doesn't "work" exactly. It's not like taking a pill. It's someone helping you work out what work needs to be done, then it's on you to go and practice it. So I guess it's sort of like training. I found with it what you get out reflects how much effort you're willing to put in. It involves a lot of pushing through discomfort.

Eyesopenwideawake · 03/12/2024 11:50

DatingDinosaur · 03/12/2024 11:24

Ditch the boyfriend and your OCD and anxiety will improve.

He sounds like he has a touch of OCD himself, either that or is controlling and has to have the last word.

Precisely.

blackcatsarethebestcats · 03/12/2024 12:06

That’s really unkind of your boyfriend. Agree with PP that you should get rid!

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