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I don't know what's wrong with me

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WhereverElse2019 · 30/11/2024 12:40

Hi all, thank you for taking the time to read my post as it's probably going to be long.

I'm late 20s, happily married with two lovely DC, have a great job that I love. I have no real worries or complaints. But I am so bloody unhappy/anxious. Not all the time, sometimes I'm okay, but go through periods (like today) where I really struggle.

A bit of background: I have quite a strong family history of mental illness. My dad, maternal grandmother, and maternal uncle all have/had bipolar and/or severe clinical depression. My dad is stable now and has been for a while but when I was a child/teen he was very poorly, in and out hospitals under sections. I myself suffered from low mood and anxiety as a teenager but not severely. I also had antenatal depression when pregnant with my second DC for which I had counselling and CBT, which helped.

Youngest DC is now 2.5. He became very poorly in July, had to be blue lighted to hospital and spent a week in the PICU on a ventilator. He has made a full recovery now but obviously it was an incredibly traumatic time.

Fast forward to now. Like I said, some days I'm absolutely fine. Perfectly happy and content. But I will go through periods where I'm incredibly anxious, tearful, irritable. I can't sleep and have no appetite. When I do sleep I have either very strange dreams or horrible nightmares. I'm not suicidal but I ruminate a lot and have intrusive thoughts about death and self harm. These down periods can last anywhere from a few days to several weeks and then I'll be fine again. I function perfectly well at work even during down periods so nobody is aware.

My husband is amazingly supportive and helps out a lot so it's not that I feel unappreciated or overwhelmed with home life. I just don't know what the matter is. These down periods are becoming more frequent and severe so I'm now considering seeing my GP and seeing what help is available as I can't keep living like this 😔

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 30/11/2024 13:48

Is it linked to your periods?

FionaSkates · 30/11/2024 14:35

See your GP, absolutely. Especially if you have a nice friendly one. If you don’t, switch to another one and the same practice to get the support you deserve. X

oopsupsideyourheadisayoopsupsideypurhead · 30/11/2024 14:38

Definitely see your GP as the down periods are more frequent and longer lasting.

As someone who has lived with similar thoughts and depression for 35 years I have a phrase 'you can't rationalise the irrational'. What I mean by that is don't try and find a reason, sometimes there isn't one.

WhereverElse2019 · 01/12/2024 07:29

DustyLee123 · 30/11/2024 13:48

Is it linked to your periods?

Now that you mention it, it does always seem to start about 10 days before my period. Could it be hormonal then?

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Gonk123 · 01/12/2024 07:33

Try evening primrose if you feel it’s hormones

Jenkib · 05/12/2024 17:08

oopsupsideyourheadisayoopsupsideypurhead · 30/11/2024 14:38

Definitely see your GP as the down periods are more frequent and longer lasting.

As someone who has lived with similar thoughts and depression for 35 years I have a phrase 'you can't rationalise the irrational'. What I mean by that is don't try and find a reason, sometimes there isn't one.

THIS - depression and mental health issues do not discriminate . Look at some of the rich, successful people who have suffered

Take care and seek help if you need it x

Namechangeobviously2024 · 05/12/2024 17:11

Your DC's illness could absolutely have triggered PTSD symptoms.

Pre-menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (like PMS but worse) is also a real thing.

Talk to your doctor.

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