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Need help with perspective

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Takemybrainaway · 17/11/2024 20:49

A bit of a rant and need help with perspective
TLDR
im depressed anc feeling crap about myself. Comparing myself to others when I know “comparison is the thief of joy

long version
a lovely thread about achievements. I do mean lovely because it is nice to see happy things when I might just as easily feel this way reading the depressing threads and news. I’m not inspired to think I could be better.

I live on my own but not really independently. I survive partly/mostly on my parents. I have a job but I’m not progressing or for instance a supervisor or manager. Jobs have ended due to my MH and my current one may go that way despite a great employer. i have no partner or children, no really close friends. I’m overweight and just getting bigger. I have poor MH and some physical issues but I’m not managing the bits I could do to help.

On an intellectual level I know that everyone has different challenges and experiences. but people on the thread have succeeded past DV and CSA, post natal depression being single parents to become successful or very successful and raise children not affected by the poster’s background. Have overcome addiction or just run marathons.

i did see a couple of posters who have made it through the day.

I was trying to do similar and I can do blessings- all things I have but nothing I’ve achieved. I’m so lucky to have food, heating etc and live in a country with at least some health service but I haven’t made any of that happen.

OP posts:
Eyesopenwideawake · 17/11/2024 22:24

but I haven’t made any of that happen.

Why is that? It is due to circumstances, past experiences, lack of opportunity or motivation (and if the latter, why?) or something else?

Takemybrainaway · 17/11/2024 23:36

it will be excuses but interesting question
People who know me well recognise me from this post not sure I mind.

not having friends or relationship
Mostly adult diagnosed autism - no help learning managing interaction and none available now . I’d still probably rather sit in the dark than ask a neighbour help with a light bulb! I tried evening classes. I attend and enjoy it but it doesn’t get any closer to outside that pre arranged thing

Career
Mixture of autism and depression. Depression did for my previous jobs . Now I just don’t seem to have the resilience for the job . we are dealing with more and more vulnerable people who need MH support, sometimes emergency.

Fun - just tiredness and a bit of laziness

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