Would someone like to be my friend? I'm struggling and need help.

[HouseWontSell]

I'm so lonely. Crippling anxiety has resulted in me being a virtual hermit. I have a partner and son but they seem oblivious to my daily struggle to survive. I'm too ashamed to discuss my mental health struggles with them. No medication or therapy has touched my anxiety.

I’m in a very similar position. I rarely leave the house, only for MH appointments really. I have severe anxiety, depression, bouts of psychosis. I’d love to be your friend x

So sorry to hear you are both struggling like that. I know it's not popular but there are some fantastic Facebook groups out there, really supportive ones. You can make a second profile so that you don't use your real name. A lot of people find real comfort in sharing their experiences. All the best .

Thank you

I'm happy to chat to anyone who needs a friend.

Hello. I'm lying in bed, too terrified to move. I've posted many times on the problems I've had since my dear mum died. I'm having problems selling her house as I'm joint executor with my sibling. Sibling is refusing to drop the price ,(it's been on the market for months). I'm going to have to pay for it's upkeep as sibling is broke. I don't understand why they don't want to sell it as quickly as possible, although they are very emotionally attached to the house.

I've had severe anxiety all my life, and this has pushed me over the edge. I'm contemplating just getting in my car and disappearing. If it wasn't for my DS, I wouldn't be here now.

First things first, pass the responsibility of selling the house to your sibling - you've tried and failed so it's their turn.

Secondly can you remember when and why you started feeling anxious or is it a family trait? Anxiety is a normal and necessary emotion when it's working correctly, but it's miserable when the volume is turned up too high.

I lost my mother when I was a teenager so I know how overwhelming and painful it is. I think I've seen a few of your posts. Do you think the details house situation is really the problem or is it more that it's just something difficult being thrown on top of an already extremely difficult time?

I also have a DS and live for him. How old is your DS? Would you like to talk to about your mum at all? X

Definitely a family problem. One of my grandparents was suicidal and used to "go away" to a psychiatric place when I was a kid....back in the days when there was actual help available....

I can't pass over the responsibility as my inheritance is at stake as well as others.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Bereavement and the associated responsibilities are terrible for anybody but when you already have anxiety I can see why you're feeling overwhelmed.

You said your partner doesn't know how much you're struggling and you feel unable to tell them? Is there a reason to believe they would be unsupportive? If not, and your relationship is otherwise ok then you should try to tell them what you're going through. I know if my husband was struggling to cope with anxiety or any other problem I'd want him to tell me. I might not be able to fix it but I could try to share the burden somehow.

How old is your son? If he's an adult/older teen you may find him a surprising source of support if you confide in him. I know my DD astonished me with her compassion and maturity when I had a bit of a struggle and it brought us closer together.

Would you be able pm me their names please. I hadn’t thought about setting up another Facebook profile so I could access them anonymously.

I'm so sorry you feel so lonely and anxious Housewontsell. If you cant officially lower the price can you let the estate agent know you’d accept lower asking prices so they would tell interested potential buyers? Is it possible your sibling would accept a lower price if an scfusl offer was on the table?

Auction the house. No waiting on buyers who may drop out at the last moment. The possible loss on the sale price will soon be recouped by investing the proceeds.

Hi OP, I am happy to chat also. I've been in your shoes re the anxiety, becoming a hermit and the daily struggle to survive. I get it, if it wasn't for my DC I would have given up. It took me a couple of years (5) to get through this but I'm there now. So I'm happy to be a friend as well.

Thank you. X

Surely the only thing that matters is that the house is sold, it doesn't matter who actually deals with sale - it's not going to affect anyone's inheritance (except that the amount will depend on the sale price).

Your mental health issues may be partly down to genes but equally might be nurture rather than nature. If you have a chance please have a look at my AMA.

I’m on the other side of the world and dealing with huge grief but I have enough kindness for everyone

Sorry to hear you are dealing with grief. It's awful 😔

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Thank you, preparing to bury my daughter is my idea of hell.

Do you sleep at night?

Sorry for your loss

Oh I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you must be going through.

No I don't sleep well. Keep waking up fretting about the future.

I understand. Stress does horrible stuff to our bodies.

My adult son is really struggling with mh. He just told me today he doesn't want to get out of bed anymore. He has missed so many days at uni, he's waiting to hear from uni councillor. He's been to gp who gave him tablets, he took them for a couple of months, no change. Tried to speak to gp to no avail. I'm sitting in tears writing this but I'm so glad he's talking to me as so many men are killing themselves. I feel so helpless.
Try and talk to your dh, reach out please. I know it's hard. If u want to talk to all of us here, we will listen 💐 🫂 xx

So sad , many many days my daughter was in that position. It’s very tough going.