Hi this is a tough one to write. We are really struggling to regulate our son who is 14 with autism, adhd and ptsd and possibly other mental illnesses however waiting for camhs referrals etc which can take time. He has an ehcp and has struggled this past year in his setting. They have completely overhauled the sen model in the school and have taken away some of the support he previously had as they don't feel he needs it. Since then there has been many violent incidents with my son lashing out. He has injured a teacher during one (by accident, he was in a fight with another boy and the teacher tried seperating them and he hit her by accident , the school confirmed he didn't mean to hit her) there was another incident 2 weeks later where he threw a glass lid off a tea trolley. They are now wanting an early ehcp review which I agree is the right thing however when they have sent over the form to look at prior to the meeting it says "There are significant concerns around his safety and that of others in school, and our ability as a mainstream secondary school to
meet those needs". I think because I work in a school myself I understand some of the wording and it feels like they are trying to get him out of the school. I had a chat with the deputy head who said we need to have a ehcp review to discuss whether we can meet his needs and I asked does that mean you don't think he can go to that school anymore and he said its not up to me it would be a wider discussion with the senco. When I discussed this with the senco she said its not up to her it's up to the senior leadership. It just feels like he's being pushed out. My question is really before i go into the ehc review meeting is if they have put this on the ehcp form does this mean that's it they don't want him anymore? Or does it mean they want to discuss what they can do? Also if that is there decision am.i able to fight it? Sorry it's my first ever ehcp review so I have no idea what to expect. Also please don't judge. The ptsd he suffers from is because of a very serious assault he suffered in his previous school who didn't support his needs. He loves the school he is in now and I'm genuinely concerned that if he is forced to leave this school it would be the final nail in the coffin I'm terms of his mental health.