I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the correct topic forum but I need some.. advice I guess?
So I was in a toxic abusive relationship for 15 years, I finally took the plunge to kick him out and end things over a year ago, the whole break up was messy also.. I'm in a situation where I'm stuck living in a home rented from my ex's mother, tricky part is I live right next to her and then my ex's grandparent live 2 doors up, this may seem unnecessary to mention but I feel like my life is governed by them to a degree, as they keep getting involved with my love life etc they are watching everything I do and keep pressurising me not to date and are trying to pressurise me into to staying in the home indefinitely. I feel obliged to stay here as I don't want to disrupt my daughter's life by taking her away from the life shes always known here, this past year has been really difficult for her and I feel selfish for potentially putting her through more stress. I guess im asking for some advice here?
My ex's family have a pretty toxic relationship at times, they scream shout and swear at each other pretty much everyday (without going into specific situations) but it can be quite a hostile environment the biggest issue here is my daughter wants to go to her grandparent's regularly, so she'll usually pop in a few times a week after school and on a Saturday I was okay with this for a while due to struggling heavily with my mental health and needing support and time for myself, however now I'm in a slightly better place mentally I'm starting to think id like her to go there less, but anytime she doesn't go there they badger me and ask why she hasn't popped in or when she's goinf to this pressures me and makes me worry because I don't want them to be mad at me and my daughter begs to see them, but they have shouted at each other infront of her on multiple occasions and I dont feel comfortable with her going there as much, how can i off taper her from going there so much? They also don't respect my boundaries and wishes when it comes to my parenting either...
I guess my second question is the renting situation okay so I rent from my ex's mum, me and my ex originally agreed to live there and pay rent to help her out as she would be unable to pay off her mortgage meaning she'd lose her house (she'd decided to move in with another family member at this point) we were happy to do so anyway as we had a child on the way and it was just easier than trying to find elsewhere.
the whole time we've rented we've had to cover the costs for everything in the house including repairs etc due to her being unable to afford this, and have had multiple arguments with her over certain things being replaced in the home due to her attachments of her furnishings that were in the home at the time, my apologies I'm trying not to ramble too much here but anytime we'd argue she'd threaten to throw us out, since the break up, ex moved in with his grandparents and me and my daughter stayed here, the house is in a bad shape in all honesty but again i understand not being able to afford getting it repaired however when I've expressed interest in moving to be closer to my family, ex's family have guilted and pressured me into staying here due to ex's mum potentially losing the house for one and number 2 they've told my daughter (without letting me know first that they were telling her) that the house is being left to her when she turns 18 have even jokingly told her to throw me out when she turns 18 because... so I feel totally pressured into staying here so my daughter doesn't lose her future inheritance, lastly I feel obliged because they do alot for Skye to be fair and have helped me out on so many occasions including lending me a huge amount of money for vet bills which I'm still paying off, so.. am i being unreasonable and selfish in wanting to leave?