I feel crap…

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Where to start…I never seem able to keep friendships going. They start ok then I find the connection fades. Also I’ve never been a popular person, quite the opposite and I know of several people who don’t like me (not sure why). I’m kind, inoffensive and friendly but I guess I’m not their cup of tea which is fair enough but they make it clear they don’t like me.
My father has dementia and is in a bad way, no,one ever asks me how he’s doing or how I am. I feel a bit invisible too sometimes. I feel so crap about myself, how do I pick myself,up?

So sorry you are feeling like this. I can totally relate as I feel like everyone I’ve ever been friends with hasn’t really valued me and I’ve been dropped in the end. Do you have any other support or people you can talk to? What about things you enjoy doing? I don’t want to seem patronising though I know it can seem so all consuming and loneliness is a horrible feeling.

@Triflelife So sorry you can relate. You’ve really summed it up about not been valued. The few friends I had already had plenty of other friends, so I guess could easily afford to lose one. I enjoy walking but have no one to go with, but do have a dog and he’s always happy to go out. I tried a choir but found it cliquey, again everyone had a friend with them, also I can’t sing so got drowned out, lol. My partner is supportive but I’d love to find some friendship too.

Thanks so much for replying, I really appreciate it.

You sound lovely, I’m sure it’s not you I think a lot of it is down to luck and who you cross paths with and when. I’m the same I always feel like everyone has their tribe already and while no one finds me offensive and I’m occasionally good for if they need extra numbers etc I’m never a number one choice. A few years ago I threw myself into everything I could, tried to be proactive with everything and said yes to any invite I had to try and build some strong friendships. But it didn’t really work and in the end I think just burned me out a bit. I’ve found some solitary hobbies with good podcasts so can enjoy those. It will feel harder at the moment as you’re going through a bad time with your Dad and will just be craving that additional support but you will be stronger than you know. I’m glad you have a supportive partner and a dog.