Hating myself and self loathing

[Sweetcorninacan]

Why ? Because I can never compete or measure up to the lap dancer he had in his face.

I wish I could stop eating to be thin. I wish I was pretty. I wish I could get him to fancy me/ want me. I wish I could bin off work every day to spend the day in the gym. I wish I could afford a PT. Being slim and pretty is all I now think about.

This is going to destroy me. It already is.

Sorry you are feeling this way. But you do realise that if I waved a wand right now and turned you into a thin, fit beauty, you would still be miserable.

Work on your mental wellbeing. Maybe leave the person who makes you so unhappy. See your GP and ask for counselling. All the best x

Did you break up with him? I hope so.

He didn't do a point by point comparison of you and the lap dancer. He's just a skeezy bastard.

Your body is you, honour it and care for it.

You could be the most beautiful woman in the world and a partner could cheat. It's about him, not you.

Sounds like there's an easy way to ditch the resentment, ditch the bloke. Is he a 6ft chiselled body builder?

You do realise that he'd still go to that lap dance even if you hit these goals because he doesn't value the stability of his relationship and he'd still feel powerful by purchasing a woman's body for his enjoyment?

Being thin and pretty isn't enough to stop men cheating. Look at all the beautiful women who get cheated on.

The key is picking a decent man, not someone who gets lap dances.

She was paid to entertain.
She was going through the motions and working out which bill was being paid with her wages.
She sees a thousand sleazes a month.

You don't mention any not being paid dancers sitting in his lap.

You could be the most stunning beautiful perfect woman and he still would have gone , please don't compare yourself op to a woman in a strip club paid to perform to men .

So you're punching above your weight in your eyes. Best to end it for all concerned, then he can get his lap dances without even a smidgeon of guilt.

What about what your wants and needs outside of this man?

Surely a man who visits a lap dancing bar isn't the kind of partner you envision for yourself?

Bin him, he sounds like dead weight. Focus on you ♥️