Lonely

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I've split up from my partner of 18 years. We have 3 found children and I have them 90% of the time. I miss them as soon as they go to bed. I feel so lonely. I dont want my ex back, but I feel lonely. I want someone to talk to, to share life with. I didn't think I'd feel this way.

Split after 13 year, two kids.

I'm also feeling pretty lonely now too. Missing having someone there.

Thing is, I don't go out to meet anyone, apps aren't for me, good men I know are taken.

Feeling lonely is awful. My kids don't live here so I literally live alone apart from my pets. Soon I'm moving 100s of miles away as well but fortunately I'll be nearer to one child, my oldest friend and three other important people.

We have to make our own lives as they won't fall into our laps.

Hard isn't it. I don't even have a job that allows me to speak to people. I'm a supply teacher so never have dame people around me

Take it in small chunks. Write a list of what you want your life to look like in all areas, the home, your work, social life, health exercise. Then come up with ways to make it as you want. We have to take responsibility for ourselves as well as asking for help and support when we need it.

Me too, OP.

Got divorced nearly 20 years ago.

One child has left home (they're adults now).

Have had a few relationships over the 20 years but they have been abusive/liars because I had got to the stage of accepting any offers!

I do one hobby type thing once a week (like a meet up) and have no proper friends there but I live for that and the one single, solitary time per week that someone else makes me a cup of tea.

I did another hobby but the last pitiful, dreadful relationship was with someone who also does that hobby who turned out to be married...

I was interested to see you are a teacher. I was a TA in a high school for years and I always thought being a teacher must be a lonely job as you are always in classes and never get chance to speak to anyone except pupils! Sorry, that probably hasn't cheered you up much!

I'm happy to message you if you want to hear about the minutiae of cooking, an ancient cat and playing chess online.