Has anyone gotten over their fear of dying?

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This is becoming debilitating now. It's increased since my bil died suddenly earlier this year.

I used to have fleeting thoughts of dying growing up but nothing like this.

I don't really want to take medication as I feel like I don't suffer with anxiety with anything else in my life. Nor am I depressed.

I can't sleep at night because it's all I think about. I don't want to die. I am so scared of dying.

I'm autistic and have adhd so I don't know if my brain is just wired differently. Nothing anyone says helps. "You won't know when you die" or "you don't know what life was before you were born" etc etc all these things don't help at all.

I'm unsure what to do. I'm suffering so much. It's becoming like an obsession almost.

Read your last two sentences. Yes you would benefit from some antidepressants and counselling.

Nothing to worry about. The feeling of being a separate self, located in time and space, is an illusion. Quantum entanglement demonstrates this. "You" were never born, so you will never die.

Are you scared of being dead…or is it worry about suffering before you die?

if it’s the latter I would recommend looking at Kathryn Mannix’s videos and podcasts.

I think it's helped me not to be afraid having because of my jobs seen people dying worked in care homes and hospice So many seem so peaceful and unafraid to the end Also was on a plane years ago that had to turn around and land it seemed like we might not survive I just got this sense of peace It felt like it would just be like going from one room to another The only person I've seen scared at the end was an evangelical vicar who had preached about judgement day

And. how people were going to hell if they weren't born again Sorry but iif t's so unpleasant and God isn't loving if there is a God I find that really hard to believe What. About the people who never got to hear an evangelical preacher is that there ticket t o hell

I don’t know if this will help but I have autism too and intrusive thoughts about dying. For me it’s part of my autism in that it’s almost become like a specialist topic of hyperfocus for me. I have to very actively push the thoughts out of my mind by replacing them with thoughts of things that I’m interested in - literally almost doom scrolling on you tube seems to work, I mean it will be different for everyone but for me it’s videos about natural disasters (!), travel things, all sorts. You need to find other things to replace the thoughts. Believe me I know that’s easier said than done but it’s almost like OCD.