How to overcome fear

[Daisypod]

I wasn't sure where to put this so hopefully it's ok here.
How do you overcome fear or anxiousness about doing things you want to do?
Over the past couple of years I have had a few trips away on my own and I have loved it (I'm married with 5 kids so it's such a treat to have me time) but in the summer I had a horrible experience in a hotel when 2 drunk men tried to break my hotel door down and get in at 3 in the morning. I feel like I don't want to be in hotels on my own anymore.
Also recently I've had our cars break down on me twice while driving, one wasn't too bad but the other this weekend was just after I had got off the motorway and was on a busy duel carriageway. It's made me so fearful of driving now, especially on the motorway as if it had broken down then I dread to think what would have happened.
I'm supposed to be going to look after my mum at the weekend but it's 3 hours away on the motorway and I just don't know if I can.
Any tips for getting over this?
It feels like as I get older I'm getting more anxious and I need to learn how to deal with it as I don't want it to rule my life

When one scary/inexplicable/worrying thing happens we can often write it off as 'one of those things', but when there are two or more things - and in your case two very similar driving incidents and another one that was also travel related - your mind can start to believe that they are in some was related and/or that you're attracting bad things.

They aren't and logically you know this (you've had the previous trips and probably thousands of driving miles to prove it) but your subconscious has devised a strategy to keep you absolutely safe and that it to trigger anxiety and even dread in order to stop the possibility of bad things happening. You can power through, teeth gritted, to prove to yourself that everything is OK (which it is), or a couple of sessions of remedial hypnosis could reframe your thought patterns to put the future into perspective.

Thank you for that, very helpful. I've been out in one of the cars today but I've come home shaking as I'm just so worried it's going to happen again. I know logically it shouldn't but still. I'm trying to stay positive and think of other things to think about while I'm driving to keep my mind from spiralling

If you can't get past it on your own (which is absolutely no reflection on you) then think about a short course of hypnosis/hypnotherapy. It is an easy issue to resolve, especially if it's fixed before it becomes ingrained.