I would not describe myself as depressed currently but have suffered with bouts of depression for the last 10 - 15 years. What I think I need is some sort of self confidence building therapy. I feel like my whole personality has changed - more so in the past 5 years - since my last child was born or more importantly my partner started an affair. I used to stand up for myself fight back etc etc but now I do anything for a quiet life and its something about myself I despise. I am a classic people pleaser and dont knock that part of my personality entirely but have accepted way too much stuff in my relationship with DP if you recognise from other threads you will know some of my history other woman recently had baby!! There are alot of circumstances that stop me from throwing the towel in on this relationship, we actually get on really well as friends (no sex anymore) but would like to be able to stand up to him more and feel like I used to a strong confident woman - I would like to hear from anyone about what therapies they have used to help them with their lives and perhaps I can work out which would suite me best. I dont want anti depressants, I am currently using St Johns Wort and it is doing the job mostly but I really want to get myself back - if you can understand that - help would be much appreciated