Advice needed please

[Happymummy83]

Hi, I need some advice.
I have a friend of around 14 years,
She's always been hot headed, having a lot of meltdowns, feeling paranoid ect, she does have mental health issues that she was previously getting help for, I too have mental health issues. I'm sad because I honestly think our friendship is coming to an end.
So here's just a few things, they sound silly but it really is a problem,
With social media she's constantly deleting it because nobody likes her posts, I feel pressure to liking every single post of hers incase she takes offence, or if she puts a post up to say how well she's doing that I should share it. She's always been the same, she'll back off or fall out with me if I'm not acting how she believes a friend should act. If I put a post on Facebook she should would say "is that about me" the other week she wrote me a big long text message saying how she can't be around me no more to which came out the blue, then rang me to apologise a few weeks later, last week she fell out with me again over social media, every time she comes back saying sorry I was in my own head I was having a meltdown, it's all very childish and draining, she always takes her feelings out on me, it's been happening for a long time, she can be quite selfish too. There's always a feeling of 'what have I done now'. She's so difficult to talk too or approach in case I say something to upset her. She's always making plans with me then cancelling, when I cancel on the odd occasion she's funny with me. I've always been there for her but when I need to chat I get "sorry I can't take on anyone else's problems at the minute" She can also be very competitive, and she does have a jealous streak, example, if I says oh my husband did this for me you can literally see her face change, it's awful, it sounds so silly I know but it's really getting to me. Recently her teenage son has started spreading rumours about me which I was devastated about because I've always treated him like family and always been there for him. My mum passed 5 years ago and she didn't come to her funeral because "she can't handle funerals" which hurt a lot.
I'm just feeling like i don't want this friendship anymore that there's no positives for me, any advice would be appreciated.

You really need to step away from this friendship, do you feel able to do that?

It will only get worse. I have been in this situation. She will never be able to see that how badly she is treating you, she will always perceive herself be the victim in life and she will never be able to see how the way she behaves impacts you. I suspect that the situation takes up a lot of head space for you. A friendship should not be like that.

Thank you for your advice. It will be quite difficult as I have a very soft nature, it takes up so much head space I find myself constantly thinking about it, and talking to my husband about it.
When she fell out with me we didn't speak for around 3-4 weeks and I felt a weight had lifted. I wish I had the courage to tell her.

You sound like me! When you manage to remove yourself from this friendship you will be able to see what she is doing more clearly. It's your soft nature that she is abusing.

You might find that you get more advice for this particular issue on the relationships board, maybe ask to get it moved there.

It's such a rubbish situation isn't it. Ok thank you, and thanks for the advice 😊