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Falling

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Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 00:49

Hi. I'm not sure what to do. I'm not a mum. I'm not sure if its allowed but I would have been if it had happened but my partner has said he's had so much good advice from here I thought I'd try. I don't know how much longer I can cope with everything. My partner has health issues which mean that a formal job would be impossible for him. We live with his mum who has early dementia. He's now under so much pressure from DWP. He had a pip review and lost his full mobility when he was enhanced before. Shortly after he had a UC50 for his ESA which has thrown him completely. He feels as though if he can't help support us he's not worth being here. I'm struggling with the pressure of filling in the form because he struggles with his writing and also feel like I'm trying to be the crutch for both of them. I hate this system. It's not helping him. Before all this started he was in a good place. All this is going to achieve is failure for mental health issues

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candlewhickgreen · 30/09/2024 01:00

Can you book an appointment at your local Citizens Advice and they'll help you with the forms.

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:12

He's looked into that but it meant an appointment that he doesn't know if he can keep. I've tried so many things and he was willing to try so much until all the reassessments happened. I should be the one who can help but I can't.

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candlewhickgreen · 30/09/2024 01:14

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:12

He's looked into that but it meant an appointment that he doesn't know if he can keep. I've tried so many things and he was willing to try so much until all the reassessments happened. I should be the one who can help but I can't.

Can you arrange a CABx appointment over the phone and they can talk you through the form?

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:19

I'm afraid of suggesting things and making things worse. I'm watching him fall and can't do anything. It's killing me but I can't make him aware of that because it will make him feel worse

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Isittoolatea · 30/09/2024 01:32

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:19

I'm afraid of suggesting things and making things worse. I'm watching him fall and can't do anything. It's killing me but I can't make him aware of that because it will make him feel worse

Subscribe to ‘benefits and work’. They helped me get my pip from daily to enhanced.
You can apply to do on demand training on there which helps you complete the forms .
Honestly it’s life changing

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:36

Isittoolatea · 30/09/2024 01:32

Subscribe to ‘benefits and work’. They helped me get my pip from daily to enhanced.
You can apply to do on demand training on there which helps you complete the forms .
Honestly it’s life changing

Thank you honestly it's killing me watching him fall. The further he falls the harder it is for me to help him

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Isittoolatea · 30/09/2024 01:38

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:36

Thank you honestly it's killing me watching him fall. The further he falls the harder it is for me to help him

He’s lucky to have you there for him but make sure you look after yourself too

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:41

Right at this moment the only way I can do that is to look after him. Once he's sorted then I can do that

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Isittoolatea · 30/09/2024 01:49

You can appeal the pip review and take it to tribunal . 70% of all people reviews are won by the claimant so it’s definitely worth doing

Jrbluey · 30/09/2024 01:57

He's scared of losing his living component. It's wrong that they review everything. Made worse by the fact the initial reward was until next year. So many people saying that reviews are taking so long. He's now convinced it's a conspiracy against him and they want to destroy him

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Orangesandlemons77 · 30/09/2024 02:45

Is he getting much mental health support? The PIP process can be stressful. It sounds like it is making him a bit paranoid?

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