Always looking after everyone else but nobody looks after me?

[readmymind1992]

I've got two DD and a partner but feel so invisible. Not working at the moment and do all households duties including putting kids to bed, after dinner tidy up etc and im struggling. Partner is pretty useless but does work hard to provide and i do appreciate it.

recently just feel like i do everything for everybody else and nobody cares about me or how i feel.

Been feeling like this for a while but most ridiculous thing set me off today, asked partner to get me a coffee with two sugars while I played with kids at park ... get coffee with no sugar and his response is "well how would i know how you take your coffee? I never make it"

first post and not really sure what my point is, just needed to vent and I don't have anyone to talk to

Yeah, that’s really rubbish. Sorry. I hope you start to feel a bit more valued and feel better soon.

I doubt your partner even sees you as he takes you for granted. Imagine not only not knowing how your partner takes their coffee but just doesn't listen to what they ask for.

If you continue to do what you've always done you'll get the same results. Time to make some changes.

I'm beginning to think the same, but im limited in what choices i can make. Stupidly financially dependent on him and although im trying to change that, its not an easy process. Hopefully I can make some changes soon.

I also feel the same. I have an elderly neighbour, i check in on her get her newspapers and if I cook/bake I take something in for her. I went away for a few days when I came back I text her to say I was home (incase she heard movement in my house) I got no reply. 2 days later another neighbour informed me that she was in hospital, although I had seen her daughter going into the house whilst I was in the garden, the daughter knocked and told me I said I had heard her response was well he was at the door or else I would not have told anyone. Today is Sunday and someone told me that they thought they had seen my neighbour going into the house with her daughter on Friday. I heard nothing until today when a neighbour confirmed she was home. I feel so annoyed, should I be feeling like this or is it because I am feeling low anyway.

I meant having a conversation about him pulling his weight and paying more attention to you. Maybe working a bit more on your relationship.

I notice this happens with all the capable women who take on everything. It's very sad.
Start delegating and not doing the delegated tasks and carry on asking for coffees and anything else. He'll soon know how you take your coffee.

Does the daughter know you & her mum have developed a relationship? I'd probably lean towards she either wasn't aware of the friendship or potentially had a lot on her mind, id hope it wasn't personal! although i do also struggling with this kind of thinking when im feeling low, its not nice to feel forgotten about

I have tried to have these conversations with him and things do improve temporarily before we slip into the same pattern of him not listening to me & me feeling neglected, i do tend to be the more emotional one and I think he sees this me being dramatic

thanks, i do delegate but struggle with the not doing his delegated tasks ... will try be more firm, appreciate the advice

Yes she knows I do loads for her mam, just feel annoyed she doesnt acknowledge me

Stop it then.
You're saving her money and time and she looks down her nose at you.