I can’t fill in a form

[Iamnemesis]

My DDad died. I am executrix. DH spoke to me as I was filling in form, I told him not to ( I don’t get menopause brain fog, I get empty brain) I have now been told by DH I have filled in part of the inland revenue form with my correct address and part with dads address. I am distraught. Where I told him to stop speaking to me was the part I put the wrong bit in. He doesn’t get it. There’s a tight deadline for return, otherwise a fine. It’s taken me a while to summon up courage to fill in form, I hold down a complex job and this is so hard for me to do and now I have fucked it up……..need to calm down. Help…..

Breathe .hey a new form and start again.

Sit down, close your eyes and take a deep breath and focus only on your breathing.

A bit more compassion,op DDad has died.These types of form's can be complicated and distraction is the last thing needed when filling them in.

I'm dyslexic, I could cry when I have to fill in any type of form. They are so hard for me to do. I need peace and quiet to concentrate so understand your problems.
Just ask for another form, lots of people have difficulty filling them in for one reason or another.

Can’t do this - forms go to dads house that is miles away cant make trip every week, deadline closer than that - can’t take anymore bereavement leave for job - doesn’t count for probate sorting and some empathy would be appreciated thank you

I sympathise. I was executor of my dad’s estate, and I put off completing the forms for months. In the end I took a half day from work, made sure I had all the relevant paperwork and got it sorted. It’s a big undertaking, especially when it’s for someone you loved.

Get a new form. Tell your partner you need peace to get this done properly, and make sure you’ve no distractions. You can 100% do this

Sorry, just saw you can’t get a new form. Are you sure you can’t download them and print them? Or even complete online and then print when you’re happy they’re filled in correctly?

Has to be the ‘real deal ‘ signature from postal form something to do with online tax return date has passed for this cycle.

That poster was saying ‘ffs’ because her phrase ‘get a new form’ was typed out wrong in her first reply - she was saying FFS to herself because of her typo. Agree it sounds bad but don’t think she was aiming it at you!

Sorry for your loss.

If you're the executor why can't the form be sent to you? Plenty of people have no access to the houses their departed loved ones lived in after a week (that's all HA give to clear out a house) or you can have all his mail redirected to you like many other people have to do.

Which form is it? It should have a code on the top right. IHT400 is the standard form and those are available online

Could you amend the form and sign the alteration?

I am sorry for your loss. It is very stressful sorting out things and sometimes the harder you try the more things seem to go wrong - take a break and look after yourself.

Or is it an IHT205 form perhaps?

Thanks to you all- sorry to boulevard if I misunderstood- so stressful. I will try all suggestions including big breath and my own idea of apology for ranting at husband!

Iamnemesis if you tell us which form it is we should be able to find a link to the online version which you can print at home or anywhere else with a printer (library, friend, your work if they will let you)

Boulevard was saying ffs to herself not you!