OCD destroying my relationships

[ella1998xx]

I am recently really struggling with intrusive thoughts and obsessing over my boyfriend cheating and leaving me to on my own with my 9 week old baby it's been going on since before the baby and it's just out of control every time his phone goes I have to know who's calling or texting I loose my mind over the smallest thing and overthink and feel like an idiot it's causing such bad problems but it's definitely a compulsion I constantly need the reassurance that his still loves me constantly and I can see for him it's just getting tiring as he does nothing to warrant this behaviours has ocd affected anyone else like this before
I don't want to loose him he's the most special person ever to me I have never been so in love and treated right before but I feel like everyday I'm pushing him away as I'm so insecure and have no confidence

You need to talk to a psychologist otherwise this will continue to get worse, because OCD or not, your behaviour is abusive.

You say this has been going on before the baby - do you mean while you were pregnant or before that?

Having a baby can make existing conditions hard to cope with (lack of sleep) and also there's a risk of post partum mental health conditions. Have you spoken to your GP or midwife?

Do take care

Aww honey, you haven't long had a baby and if you're still adjusting and sleepless nights etc it can really take a toll on your mental health, could you be honest and say to your partner you know he's not cheated on you but to be transparent you're having intrusive thoughts and you're going to try and navigate this so he doesn't feel like you're doubting him and seeking reassurance.
Has he cheated on you before out of interest, where is this insecurity coming from?
Having a baby l does leave you vulnerable but I'm sure your partner isn't cheating on you but you need to work on how you'll improve your wellbeing to improve your OCD. Xxx

@offyoujollywelltrot don't comment on posts like this if you're going to be vile. This lady's in post-partum, be sensitive and less blunt, throwing around a term such as abusive to someone who's asking for help on how they can improve their ocd isn't going to help.

I'll comment where I like.

She needs help, I suggested help, because her behaviour is abusive.

HTH.

I been having a really difficult time and understand my behaviour is horrible I don't really need to be told this that's why I'm reaching out for help to try and change that it's a horrible cycle and my intent was never to be absuive but my own issues have manifested into that and I will hold my hands up to it

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this and I totally understand the thoughts too as I’ve experienced them during pregnancy and post pregnancy. What really helped me was going on 50mg of Sertraline post pregnancy, for the first time in my life I actually felt ‘normal’. It was so good for my relationship and mental well being.

You are being abusive no one usually intends to be, of you were a man it would be abusive same as a woman

You need help it can be dressed up as pretty as you want it to be it it is still a fact

First step. Go to your GP and get some support.

@ella1998xx ignore all of the negative posts on here it's wild people think their comments would be helpful, I would go to the GP and you'd be surprised how supportive they'd be, this phase will pass just ride the storm and try and ask for support from friends and family xx