Feeling depressed..

[Itsveryshiny]

I dont know why I am feeling so depressed. I have a lovely husband and two boys. My husband works full time and I am part time. We have an expensive mortgage and bills which consumes most of our salaries combined.
I also have a very toxic jealousy to people that I know that always have better jobs, better income, and having lots of holidays. We can barely afford a cheap holiday, the last we had was a cheap campsite with no electricity.
i shouldnt be feeling this way as I am lucky to have family. But i am just feeling depressed that we are too poor to afford a holiday or any luxury in life..

Hi @Itsveryshiny,

Remember comparison is the thief of joy!

Are you on social media - I think Instagram and Facebook are the worst for making you feel like this.

Remember other people who aren’t on the housing market would look up to you and be jealous of your mortgage! Hopefully it will go down in a year or two when you remortgage so this may be a temporary thing 🤞🏼

@Bloatedbelly thats my issue i am such a jealous person. I want this toxic jealousy out of my system but dont know how to do it 😥 i think i need help

Delete the social media apps!!!

You could try gratitude journaling (I’m not overly into it but I know it works well for lots of people).

Other than that I think noticing when stuff is making you feel bad. If it’s meeting up with certain friends etc that’s making you feel that way then maybe have a bit of a break from them.

See if there is some sort of therapy available. It would be a good idea to get to the root of this. If not, it seems you will never be satisfied. I agree, comparison is the thief of joy.

@Bloatedbelly the friends that i am jealous of are really my only friends. They are lovely people but because of my jealousy i am slowly pushing them away. Now i am feeling lonely and left out. 😓 i will try gratitude journalling for sure

The first poster is absolutely 100% right! Me and my dp rent a lovely home, have 2 ds, he works full time I work part time. We have a nice life. We went to Turkey this year, then rented a beautiful static home for a week in the summer holidays with friends, we have another trip to Alcudia booked for May. We eat out, take the kids to cool places. BUT, we can't get on the property ladder and would gladly trade our 'luxury' for your expensive mortgage. We'd love to own our own home and have that security for our boys. You're giving them something stable and secure, something that holidays etc will not. Be proud and be grateful 😀 I'm jealous of you lol

@Shmee1988 thats what i get jealous of. Our friends are on holidays a lot. We can barely afford a cheap holiday. We managed to book a cheap campsite with no electricity and my dh is still moaning of how expensive it was! I guess i do have to feel lucky about our mortgage. I just need to be grateful for what i have.

It’s so difficult and it’s completely natural to feel that way. It’s the way our brains are wired to always want more and see what we don’t have.

I think all you can do is see it as a stage of your life and acknowledge that it’s shit times for loads of people right now.

I bet your friends have their own issues and problems too! Sometimes it helps to be honest about things too and it might surprise you.