Struggling

[denpark]

I'm really struggling at the moment.

In the past year I've got divorced (after dealing with years of financial, emotional and verbal abuse); had a cancer scare & lots of hospital appointments including surgery; lost my job through bullying/restructuring & my Mum is dying.

I'm on antidepressants but I'm finding life generally very very difficult. My children are my focus as everything else is shit.

It's totally understandable that you're struggling. You're going through a lot of tremendous and difficult change. Do you have any support right now?

I feel for you. Life can be so hard sometimes, I know. My solution is support groups, people who are going through, or have gone through, what I'm experiencing - or at least one aspect of what I'm experiencing. And groups that meet face-to-face come out tops for me. Sending hugs and I hope you find what you need.

I hadn't thought of support groups- I'll look into those.

I haven't got any real support- all my family are miles away and my friends have busy lives.

I can identify with that - the family and friends, I mean. If codependency resonates with you, you could try CODA - codauk.org That's one of the things that helps me. Also, have you been back to your doctor? Seeing a counsellor or therapist may help.

I'm sorry. Sometimes life throws a fuck tonne of things at you. It's totally understandable that you feel bowled over.

Does your old employer have an EAP programme? Sometimes you can still access those for a while. If not maybe CBT through the NHS.

I am so sorry about your mum - I hope you can find a supportive group.

Don't be afraid to go back to the GP - they can be very helpful and reassuring and kind.

Also counter intuitively sometimes just doing what you need to get by, dial in your sleep, nutrition etc. Maintain just enough social contact with the world .

Sorry, denpark. I know it's tough, but keep it strong. There is good in life, we just have to wait and see it.

Have you thought about trying a cannabis treatment for your anxiety and depression? This page says that after 4 weeks, significant improvements in anxiety were reported by patients. Worth a look.

Hi @denpark ,

I would ignore the previous poster about cannabis therapy!!

You are dealing with an immense load of stressful things so no wonder you feel this way. Well done you for getting through it all - hopefully things will start to turnaround!

I think the best thing is to make sure you have lots of relaxation and down time. Try and treat yourself super kindly and be really forgiving of yourself too.

Definitely go and speak to your GP about it if you haven’t already. It might be that an anti-depressant or some therapy could give you a boost until things are a bit better xx