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Convinced partner isn't attracted to me anymore

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ella1998xx · 02/09/2024 21:34

I have always struggled with my weight and my confidence but when I first got with my boyfriend he would always make me feel so beautiful and really headed that part of me that used to think so badly and low of myself as long as he thought I was beautiful nothing else mattered to me . Since having my daughter I feel like I have gained a lot of weight she's 8 weeks old and I was always quite chubby and had to work quite hard to not gain weight or keep my weight down it didn't come easy to me and I can't eat what I want I just hate my body at the moment I feel sick when I look in the mirror I feel like a monster and unlovable like nobody would ever look at me and want to be with me ... I think this has developed into me being convinced my boyfriend wants to leave me and meet someone else I have no evidence of this it's just purely what I keep thinking in my head and he does nothing wrong but I can feel my constant need for reassurance is pushing him away but I just don't see myself as lovable anymore or attractive so I just naturally think he dosnt I feel so lost and upset I just want to get myself back and my spark I used to have . Has anyone gone through something similar and stated to her paronoid of a partner due to their own insecurities and problems with their self ?

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Eyesopenwideawake · 03/09/2024 11:58

What would it take for you to change your thinking on this?

malificent7 · 05/09/2024 07:52

You only had a baby 8 weeks ago...your body has been through a lot and the changes can be dramatic.
Your bf should love your body for giving him a beautiful baby girl and im sure he does still fancy you. In the long term perhaps councelling might help and eat healthy for your health.

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