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Depressed after a break up

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Oceansmum21 · 28/08/2024 20:36

I recently found out I was pregnant around (8 weeks) , My now ex partner left me and our dd (aged 3) after 10 years together. He moved out around 2 weeks ago and back with his mum, He said he'll continue to see our daughter but wants nothing to do with the new baby. He seems to be doing well, I've been told he's on dating sites and seems happier since he's left however I'm a mess, Crying all the time, depressed and lonely yet my ex couldn't give a damn He says "it is what it is" and that unfortunately he'll never be with me again.
I'm terrified of being a single mum to two children and I'm so scared for the future, I've even had to quit work and move to uc for now as I'm so depressed and sad.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so how did you cope?
I'm trying to be strong for my daughter but it's so hard

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Ohdearyme72 · 28/08/2024 20:49

Sending a hand hold xox

handsoap · 28/08/2024 20:56

i have never been in this situation, but i do look after both my children full time as my partner works away for days. it is daunting and terrifying to know that you will be looking after 2 children all by yourself, you will overthink (if not already) EVERYTHING. but you will be able to do it. as soon as your LO is born, all the stress should hopefully relief itself abit (hopefully)

i am so sorry for what you have been through, but you are doing your best navigating becoming a single mother to a LO and pregnancy.

you can do this!

you could talk to ur GP about how you are feeling too. maybe your midwife?

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Oceansmum21 · 28/08/2024 21:15

handsoap · 28/08/2024 20:56

i have never been in this situation, but i do look after both my children full time as my partner works away for days. it is daunting and terrifying to know that you will be looking after 2 children all by yourself, you will overthink (if not already) EVERYTHING. but you will be able to do it. as soon as your LO is born, all the stress should hopefully relief itself abit (hopefully)

i am so sorry for what you have been through, but you are doing your best navigating becoming a single mother to a LO and pregnancy.

you can do this!

you could talk to ur GP about how you are feeling too. maybe your midwife?

Thank you for your reply! I referred myself to the mw centre 4 weeks ago and they've still not reached out, I have chased them up.
I however saw my gp today and were put on mild anti depressants. I stopped my previous ones when I found out I was pregnant but have been put back on them.
I've looked in to the brand and whether they're safe and they are as its only a low dosage luckily enough x

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handsoap · 28/08/2024 21:17

good on you girl! i've just been out on them too, well nearly 2 months ago now. i feel a worlds of a difference. i am 5 months PP with my second little boy x

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