Overwhelmed mum

[SunnyGoldDreamer]

The first thing I need to say is I love my kids

I have a 16mo and a 3 yo

The last 3 years of my life has been pretty much dedicated to raising babies.

I have suffered with depression for years and take medication to help.manage my condition.

For the last few months since March I have been struggling massively with my mental health.

The tantrums, the screaming, the constant nappies, potty training and endless hamster wheel of mundane household tasks, chaos,.mess and noise is draining the life out of me.

I have no social life any more. I started my.own business which failed due to unexpected health conditions. I feel resentful of my partner who goes to work every day and still gets to socialise with his friends.

I'm just feeling so lost and so lonely at the minute I just can't see a road out of where I am.

Please can someone tell me it gets easier?

I'm so sorry you're going through this and yes it does get easier!

I had my two close together and by the time the second came along my DH had taken voluntary redunancy and became self employed. He worked 12 hour days, 7 days a week for the first 2 years. That was almost 40 years ago now and I look back and can see it was only a tiny fraction of my life, but felt like an eternity at the time. By the time the youngest was 2 I could tell it was starting to become easier.
Hang on in there, it WILL get easier, especially when they can go to nursery/school.

Oh and I meant to add that as soon as you can make sure you have a social life too. I started going out with girlfriends when youngest was about 3/4 years old

I promise you it gets easier. I also hated the baby stage. In hindsight, I was quite seriously mentally unwell during my first maternity leave.

Being away from it all at work, at least part time, has saved me. Can you get a job at all? Even just two days a week. It will give you mental space and an identity other than "mum".

Thank you! My OH is also self employed and works long hours and as I had to stop working I've been juggling all the house stuff.

I'm starting a job in September 3 days a week and I'm hoping that gives me a bit more balance and freedom. Just so bored of being stuck at home, and as much as I love my little.ones it's just so relentless and lonely

Thank you for sharing, sorry you feeling like this.
Reading your thread made me not feel alone. I'm going through similar thing right now but I have 3 children (teenager/6year/toddler). I feel stuck, lost whom I am and don't what to do.

You should be proud of yourself for trying to start a business and something for yourself. I keep going back and forth about trying something or going back education or something. But to scared too.
you give me hope this isn't forever.