Extremely unhappy and feel hopeless.

[hayley20001]

Sorry in advance for the massively depressing post, Im at a loss where to go and who to speak to at this stage.

Long story short - I have struggled with feeling so deeply, deeply unhappy for many years. In covid I lost my job of over 10 years for no reason (family business - had a disagreement so they decided to make me redundant!), my mental health is terrible - I have severe ocd and anxiety and I’m really struggling with day to day life as my brain just won’t stop, I’m currently self employed which I’m also struggling with as I’m constantly terrified of having to go back to a ‘proper job’ as my anxiety is just so bad I don’t know how I’d cope and to top it all off I’m struggling to get pregnant (I am under doctor care for this). On the other hand, my marriage is wonderful but I feel like I’m ruining his life by being so permanently unhappy.

I have seen a therapist for this but I’ve not had much relief - most are insistent on antidepressants (which I have tried in the past) but due to current health issues I’m not willing to go back on to them at the moment.

is anybody else out there feeling like me in a similar situation? Has anybody been in a similar situation and got better? I feel totally hopeless and I don’t know what else to do.

Hello, I'm not really in a similar situation, and can't offer any advice, though I'm suffering a bit with anxiety at the moment, so I can empathise with that. It's awful, it sucks the joy out of life when it's bad.

Sorry I can't be of any help, but I didn't want to just read and run. I hope you can get some relief.

Hi I don’t have OCD but a close family member does so I see first hand how rotten it is. I do have anxiety though. I had a horrible year last year and had a lot of time off work. I ended up having to leave that job and move to a temporary one just for my sanity and mental health as I was so broken.

Have you spoken to anyone about this? A counsellor or psychologist? I’ve also been on antidepressants most of my adult life and am resigned to the fact I just need them. I also take a lot of supplements like B12 and vitamin D in case I’m low in those.

Anxiety is so exhausting it’s like you’re dangling from the edge of a cliff all day.

Exercise is 100% key for me. Daily an hour or two.

Then yoga, meditation, chatting to friends, getting enough sleep,

Agree with checking b12

Thank you all for replying. I’m sorry to hear you all have anxiety too.

I have recently had my b12 checked and it was low, however it is now definitely ok. My vitamin D however is horrendous lol - I’ve been on supplements for this for 4 months and it is slowly getting there. I’ve still got about half way more to go before it is at the ‘normal’ levels.

I don’t get much exercise so I really must try and improve on that. I just find myself wanting to sleep in my spare time!

@sweetkitty I’m sorry you’ve had such a tough time too. How are you now? X
i have spoken to a therapist, I saw a therapist for a number of years but she recently left the nhs and unfortunately they failed to find a replacement. I haven’t pushed any further because I didn’t find much help really :(

Have you looked at access to work? They can provide a support worker and various other things.