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MamaZee94 · 18/08/2024 20:57

Hi I need some guidance and help as I have no one and nowhere to go
I have a two-year-old and am currently 7 months pregnant with the second
I have no support no help not even from my husband
He doesn't even spend 10 mins of his day with our daughter
I feel all the responsibilities of parenting are on me even being pregnant
He doesn't ask me how I feel and if the baby is well
Been going to all the appointments myself
Have to live in the same house with his father and brother and cook for them
Iam in Uk on a spouse visa and was never allowed to work or make friends
I have been in this country for the past 9 years and don't know a single person
Very desperate as I have been told by my husband that if I say anything like this to my midwife they will involve social security and will take my kids away
Which I can't bear
I just want to know what are my options? How can I get out of this situation?? Where can I get help from without losing my kids
Sorry for such a long message and thank you in advance for reply ❣️

OP posts:
FleaDog · 18/08/2024 21:10

Ring Womens Aid

I will try to add phone number.

"They" won't take your children away, your husband is trying to scare you into remaining silent.

Eyesopenwideawake · 19/08/2024 12:13

Can you show what you posted here to your midwife or to your doctor?

Cheesecakecookie · 19/08/2024 12:20

You are being abused by your partner.

As previous poster says - speak to women’s aid and find out he legal position with your visa should you leave your husband.

Your children aren’t going to be taken away - you’ve done nothing.

Tharshe · 19/08/2024 12:24

I'm so sorry to read this. The previous posters are quite right and you're being controlled and lied to. Nobody is going to take your children and there are options for you right now to get free of this abusive relationship. Your midwife/health visitor/GP/Women's Aid/Citizens Advice. Any or all of these could be a first step to a happier and safer future for you and your children. I know the first step is often the hardest, but you've been really courageous in posting here and I hope you keep talking and posting. There are some incredibly knowledgeable women here who'll be able to help you plan every step.

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