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Would you leave your drink with your date while popping for a wee? OCD or normal worry?

21 replies

Overthinker89 · 18/08/2024 08:37

Hi lovely folk. So last night I was on a date with someone i'd met on an app. We stayed for one and he asked if I wanted another. It was going well and I liked his company so i said yes. He got the drinks and brought them to the table (I could see him at the bar), I took a sip, realised I needed the bathroom and said I'd be back in a min. While on the loo I realised I'd left my drink with him and while he seemed nice he was essentially a stranger until this date. Would you do the same? An I am idiot? I have OCD so probably overthinking this. I just want to know if it's normal to leave your drink on the table with a date a few hours in while you pop to the bathroom or whether other people would be paranoid about doing this? I can't work out what is my OCD and what I genuine worry and so asking others if this is something they would of done? We had our drinks parted ways and said a friendly goodbye. We didn't arrange to meet again as it didn't feel romantic but he seemed nice and interesting.

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Blablablabladibla · 18/08/2024 08:39

If I didn't trust someone enough to leave my drink with them I wouldnt be meeting them and/or I wouldn't feel ready to date.

I'm interested to see what others say though, I expect you'll get a lot of differing andwers

mynameiscalypso · 18/08/2024 08:43

It's a good question. I think I probably have waited until I'd finished my drink and then gone personally.

pinacollateral · 18/08/2024 08:44

Really I just think a first date with someone you've met online should be a coffee in the daytime. I would do that a few times before putting myself in any situation that involved going out in the evening/ alcohol.

ViciousCurrentBun · 18/08/2024 08:45

No one should leave a drink unattended in a bar ever. Because even if the date is ok there are others about. As sad as it is that is the truth.

It’s not a question of being ready to date or trusting someone, there is no way you can fully trust someone on a first date.

Hectorscalling · 18/08/2024 08:46

No, I wouldn’t leave my drink with someone I don’t know. I think it’s a normal worry.

FuckingFreezing · 18/08/2024 08:48

If it was a first date I wouldn't no, especially if I'd met him online. But if I did accidentally as you did kind of without thinking I'd just make sure I stayed in a public place for a while afterwards so I wasn't alone with him.

Ratfinkstinkypink · 18/08/2024 08:51

I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my drink with a relative stranger either.

Backtothedungeon · 18/08/2024 08:55

Its not something I would have thought of, but it is a valid concern. This person is a stranger to you. You have no reason to trust them.

wtfactually · 18/08/2024 09:00

Never eve eve ever ever leave your drink with someone you don't know.

Never ever ever leave your drink with your friends if they are not 100% watching it and have it in their personal space.

Biggaybear · 18/08/2024 09:32

I wouldn't give in a moments thought but then again I'm late 50's and no-one is likely to want to drug me.

xyz111 · 18/08/2024 10:37

Blablablabladibla · 18/08/2024 08:39

If I didn't trust someone enough to leave my drink with them I wouldnt be meeting them and/or I wouldn't feel ready to date.

I'm interested to see what others say though, I expect you'll get a lot of differing andwers

I don't agree with this. Yes of course it's fine to meet people, that's how you gain their trust. But you shouldn't trust them right from the start.

betterangels · 18/08/2024 10:52

Absolutely not.

quickturtle · 18/08/2024 10:53

I wouldn't. But when I went to uni there were loads of drink spiking awareness campaigns

MeAgainAndAgain · 18/08/2024 10:54

No. I’d have drunk it first then gone to the loo.

BobbyBiscuits · 18/08/2024 11:07

Well, you did, and presumably you're fine?
I think if I had a weird vibe about someone I'd just leave. I have been spiked before by a banker from OLD. The second and only time I did that! The first OLD I went on was a kid who was about 17, he said he'd used his dad's picture?!
This was many years ago. So you're right to be cautious but this fella is clearly not a spiker!

MinnieDog · 18/08/2024 15:36

I definitely wouldn't. I'd feel funny enough about letting him get me a drink- I'd have to watch like a hawk.

dbeuowlxb173939 · 18/08/2024 15:44

I can see a lot of people doing exactly what you did. But thinking about it it's quite a risky thing to do

rainbowbee · 18/08/2024 16:23

I'd never, ever, ever leave a drink with a strange male. Even if he were buying it, I'd want to see it poured. It's too risky.

Singleandproud · 18/08/2024 16:26

No, I would have drunk it then gone to the loo. Once you are at the stage of being at each others houses making each others drinks then it's a non issue

KendraTheVampyreSlayer · 18/08/2024 17:04

mynameiscalypso · 18/08/2024 08:43

It's a good question. I think I probably have waited until I'd finished my drink and then gone personally.

Yes, this. You can never be quite sure with anyone.

Ilovedogs1 · 19/08/2024 18:20

I think it's a valid worry but probably exacerbated by your OCD.
I also have OCD and totally see where your coming from but as you know we do have a tendency to catastrophise. X

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