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Emotional self-harm

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RienNienteNichts · 14/08/2024 12:44

At times of stress and emotional difficulty (and usually when I'm in my luteal phase - I have PMDD), I will deliberately seek out things that will upset me and make me cry. Stories about people experiencing unbearable grief, documentaries about disasters / tragedies, etc. Or I will imagine something terrible happening to me and/or someone I love and then watch it play out in my mind like a terrible film.

It's a weirdly compulsive behaviour and I've seen it described online as 'emotional self-harm'.

Does anyone else do this? Is there a way of making it stop? I feel like I should just be able to 'not do it' through willpower or something but it's like I don't realise I've fallen into it until it's been over an hour and my face is completely swollen up from crying.

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pinkspeakers · 14/08/2024 12:49

Oh I do this too! I imagine it is fairly normal to some degree, depending on how much affect it has on you overall. I actually see it as a way of getting some emotional release.

pinkspeakers · 14/08/2024 12:52

I find that my daily morning journal helps monitor my state of mind and make me aware of the risk. And if I'm starting to have those sorts of thoughts I can talk myself out of it in writing in a way that I can't in my head.

RienNienteNichts · 14/08/2024 16:04

Thanks @pinkspeakers - that's really helpful ❤

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