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How do you know if you have PND or are just 'miserable'???

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SandyChick · 16/04/2008 09:06

Hello, i dont really know where to start so im just going to waffle and hope it makes some kind of sense.

Im a SAHM to an 8 months old. My DH is in the forces so we live on a camp in the south of England, we are both origionaly from the North. DH has been in the forces 4 years. We lived and worked together before he signed up so it was sort of a joint decision eventhough it was something he had always wanted to do and had started the joining up process when we started dating. We have been together for 5 years and married for 3. When we got married i decided that i didnt want to live apart so i said i would follow him wherever he was posted.

Since DS was born i have really struggled as it is just the 3 of us. My parents have been a big help and come down to us or we go up to them quite often. Ds has started nursery a few sessions per week to give me a break but i hate leaving him and feel like im forced into doing it because there's no other option.

In an ideal world id love to move 'home' where id have a lots of help but we'd have to live apart from DH which would also be rubbish. I just feel trapped and destined to be miserable for the rest of my life. Im a shaddow of my former self. I used to spend time doing my hair and make up and takig pride in how i looked but now i feel like im always playing catch up so all that stuff is bottom of the list. I hate feeling like this, i have a beautiful little boy who is no bother at all. I feel im not in control of my life anymore and i can see myself just plodding along and looking back in 10 years time and having loads of regrets.

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gingerninja · 16/04/2008 09:26

Sandy, I don't know about PND but I've certainly felt like you do on many occasions and sometimes still do.

It sounds like you need a network of support locally. Do you go to any groups? Can you join the NCT or something? When your DS is at nursery is there anyway you can do something for yourself? My biggest problem is feeling lonely and isolated. My family live miles and miles away. I commuted for 10 yrs before DD was born so have never made any friendships locally. That is the hardest part, having no one to turn to or just share a moment with. I work three days a week now which helps although I still travel to do this so it doesnt help with local contact but it give me a purpose of my own. Would a part time job be an option for you?

I know all this is easier said than done (i need to take a dose of my own advice) but you need to address the issues one by one. I think you're probably overwhelmed with feeling unhappy and can't see a way through.

gingerninja · 17/04/2008 09:19

Sandy, how are you feeling today?

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