Struggling with lack of joy/motivation

[FrancisSeaton]

I'm not sure if I'm suffering from undiagnosed adhd or it's menopause related - I'm on 20mg of flouextine
The only way I can explain how I feel at the moment is a total lack of any motivation to do anything routine mundane or necessary, I will motivate myself if it's for activities that excite me but I do too much such as shopping gambling and eating. I can show up and get up out of bed and get involved when it's birthdays Christmas holidays etc but really struggle when it's just routine mundane stuff
Anyone ever suffered this and overcame it?

Bump hopefully

shit are you me? except im on 40mg of flouextine and on HRT as well and im even more convinced i have adhd so it is something i would definately look into if i were you

Good to hear from someone in a similar situation
Have you been refered for assessment? Doctor did do a referral a while back but haven't heard anything. Life just feels like such a bloody big hill to climb at times. I wish I could just go on as many holidays as I wanted but I know that's not real life

not yet been to the docs to get referred yet, in all fairness it was only last week that all the dots joined up and it suddenly made sense, and trust me, all the holidays in the world doesnt help, i hit my so far rock bottom on holiday that when i returned i then went to the doctors and been on the anti depressants since.

i am on holiday at the moment and its not as bad, its hot and as much as i cant face doing anything lying by a pool is what i need just now, i am taking this time to read more into it and to put down exactly what i feel are my adhd traits so when i make a doctors appointment in the next few weeks i will be armed with info

That sounds like stress, and it can drain all the joy out of life. Can you ring the changes? Are you bored with the routine? Do you allocate time for basic low-level enjoyment?

I'm trying to fix mine at the moment before I see my GP. Changing the food I buy, the meals I make, the routines at the weekend. Making a conscious effort to be in less of a rush.

I've taken to running in the early morning when it's peaceful (easy while it's warm and light).
I find out which venues have street music in my local town, and if I have to go in, I'll stop for a glass of wine and a chat.
If DS needs the barbers, we go crazy golfing after.

I'm also trying to change my job.

That's a common perimenopause thing.

Okay well I don't feel so abnormal now
I've had cbt in the past which didn't really do anything can anyone recommend any other sort of therapy?

I get this. Although i now get scared at the thought of becoming excited because I know the anxiety is gonna come back 🥹

Have a look at podcasts about ADHD and women. There are lots, but off the top of my head ADHD for Smartass Women, by Tracey Otsuka, and Additude magazine (not all re women but has lots of free material on the podcast and the website)

They’ve got lots of proactive tips to try - not all of it works for everyone, but learning about it all is a bit helpful for me at least!