I want I want to find some books or audio books that I can give to my daughter who's 22 and has experienced the following in her journey to adulthood:
*Favouritism (as in not being a favourite grandchild)
*Father who favours a sibling over her and literally makes no effort to see her whatsoever (encouraged or driven by his wife of 7 years)
*In secondary school, loss of a vital relationship of a same age friend followed by brutal social exclusion by everybody in her year group
*Development of a bad case of perfectionism.
She's flying halfway round the world in a few months to take training and an exam and of late she's been redeveloping symptoms of severe anxiety, that she's had in the past from time to time, including feeling overwhelming nausea (even with activities / social situations she's well used to, with people she loves and who love her including her lovely, lovely boyfriend) where she's fighting to not be sick, beginning to feel panicky (and I think she's probably been on the edge of a panic attack as well to be honest) .
I have of course suggested therapy but she's very very reluctant and I can't force her to do it. So I'm looking for just the right materials - with strategies and insight, no religious elements, and bearing in mind he's not suppressed rage / toxic / verbally abusive / aggressive / violent or manipulative - he's just bleh, highly superficial 'jolly' interactions with her, meaningless, a ghost father.
And she needs help on how to get to a place of peace with that.
There is NO mileage in guidance that speaks of how to 'explain to him clearly how he's hurt / continues to hurt her'. Trust me, we have been there; she has on many occasions (very eloquently and with a great deal of maturity) attempted this and it literally comes to nothing - so any resources that are talking about stating your case or trying to build bridges are a complete waste of time; there is just no mileage in it.
I be so grateful for some thoughts on anything that anybody else has found who's experienced anything like this as I'm a bit worried for her at the moment particularly with the upcoming travel.