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Please help me and advise what to do with this psychopath!

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Damselindistres · 06/08/2024 20:25

Ok, let me try to explain this..
when I am using the word psychopath that is not used lightly.
we are taking about a man who can be the most kind hearted man to children and one minute couldn’t do enough for you. Until something in his brain switches and the minute something doesn’t go his way; he switches against me and starts destroying property, screaming insults at me m and threatening to send explicit voice notes I sent him about a situation I once found myself in, to my family, including my mum and dad and ex. You’d think I was talking about a teenager but he is almost 50. He is the father of my son.

I am devastated to say I knew this would be the case but I wasn’t going to abort my son.

we split up a while back and he’s been begging for me back, I said no. I picked my child up from daycare today where she ate already. As he was babysitting I bought a meal deal in a rush for her to snack on while I was gone. It’s a hot day and a light snack and sandwich is all she needed for second tea today being hot me in a rush and of course a one off. I feed my kids healthy and well. He gave me abuse while I was leaving to go to an appointment (on text message) and so I went back to collect my kids as the mood he was in was volatile and I wouldn’t want my young kids around him like that (just in case - nothing ever happened before to harm the kids of course!!).
so because I went back and he wasn’t in control, he kicked all the inside of my car braking my indicator clean off, my gear stick ripped off completely and snapped my back window wiper. On top of this my phone was broke when we split up last time. Something he has never paid for.
here is the issue. When I said I am ringing the police for his volatile behaviour he has said he is sending a voice note to my family to humiliate me, where I have admitted to doing an intimate video call with a random person online a good while back before we met and told him details (he asked for me to tell him this other wise he would split up with me)! Yes it all sounds stupid but when someone is manipulating you they can make you do wild things and not question. He has also made threats against my family too. I do not know what to do. I truly believe this man would step his game up and cause so much violence and taument on my family if I were to report him to the police. WTF do I do?! I am trapped completely!!!

thank you for reading.

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Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 06/08/2024 20:36

Report him. And take away his power. Tell your family he is abusive and made you say all sorts of things while you were together and is now threatening to send these things to them. And for them to understand that everything that was sent was under duress and to try to keep you and the children safe. Take pictures of your car and have him charged for criminal damage. Keep your kids away from him as if he doesn't have them he has no power. Show the police all of the messages from him. If they are WhatsApp screen shot them in case he deletes. Right now he thinks you will take it and do anything he asks. Save yourself and your kids from him

Damselindistres · 06/08/2024 20:39

Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 06/08/2024 20:36

Report him. And take away his power. Tell your family he is abusive and made you say all sorts of things while you were together and is now threatening to send these things to them. And for them to understand that everything that was sent was under duress and to try to keep you and the children safe. Take pictures of your car and have him charged for criminal damage. Keep your kids away from him as if he doesn't have them he has no power. Show the police all of the messages from him. If they are WhatsApp screen shot them in case he deletes. Right now he thinks you will take it and do anything he asks. Save yourself and your kids from him

This is great advice. I am just really scared to report him in case anything happens to my family.

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Helplessandheartbroke · 07/08/2024 08:32

Report him before this goes any further. He will be locked up and cant harm anyone then

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