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Birth Trauma creeping back

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Dancingmum2416 · 29/07/2024 22:06

Hi everyone,

I had my beautiful son 5 months ago, it was a week of trauma to say the least, I really thought I was ok with it all as I’ve been so busy with my son but now as I’m starting to feel a little lonely in my mat leave, I’m struggling to come to terms with the birth.

Monday (38+4) - a whole morning of no moments, up to triage, on monitor for 4 hours as baby’s heart rate through roof, sent in ambulance to a different hospital as doc though baby had to come out, get to the hospital, baby fine but induction strongly recommended
Tuesday (38+5) - trying to get things going on my own to avoid induction that is booked for next day, no luck
Wednesday - Friday - 4 rounds of the gel, FINALLY dilated enough to have waters broke, no room in labour ward
Saturday (39+2) - waters broke on their own!!! Still waited 24 hours on labour ward
Sunday (39+3) - hormone drip started, when things just became awful, failed epidural, placental abruption, rushed to theatre, spinal didn’t take, put to sleep for delivery
00.57am Monday - finally met my beautiful son

yes I am grateful we are all ok but I will never get over the fact me or my partner weren’t there to meet our son as soon as he was born, to make matters worse I had to go back into hospital for 3 nights due to an infection when my son was just a week old.

should I ask for a debrief? Are VBAC’s allowed after an abruption?

I don’t really know the full point on this post.. a little bit of weight off my chest talking about it I suppose.

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Littleorangeflowers · 30/07/2024 08:00

💖 that sounds like it was challenging to say the least. GA delivery I think? It will take time to process. Does your area offer debriefs? Some people do find them helpful. Writing your story down too.. like you said get it off your chest can help

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