BPD/EUPD/CPTSD

[anxiousmum1998]

Hi I have already spoken to some lovely people but would love to pre advice regarding social services.

So basically I have had anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember.I now have a referral as an outpatient to se a psychiatrist because my GP has noticed symptoms of BPD /EUPD or CPTSD.
To be honest it’s made the anxiety go through the roof I have missed a period as of this morning so will buy a test and take tomorrow. I already have a 5 year old son .I’m now terrified that this referral to psychiatry may mean social services get involved if I am pregnant.If diagnosed with BPD I’m also scared the social services would get involved with the pregnancy or with my son since yesterday I have read horror stories about social services taking babies /children away from parents who have EUPD /BPD(google and Facebook in that case was not helpful)Ive not had one of these assessments before I’m worried it will be completely overwhelming for me . I’m also concerned that I’ll go to the appointment,get diagnosed and be told that to get treatment I have to be hospitalised or sectioned .sorry if this triggering by the way .It’s just a lot to process .Up until yesterday I had never even heard of EUPD or BPD and it all feels very unknown .That being said I went through so much trauma as a child and have spent a lot my adult not understanding why things upset me so much so maybe this is the reason why ,it would explain a lot .
I also have trouble regulating emotions but it seems to be worse when reminded of my childhood specifically the things that happened when I was 9-10 .The anxiety can 1-10 in seconds.I seem to be very black and white person who ses every thing as right or wrong with no in between .My self worth is at an unbelievably low level which up until this I have always put down to depression which was what I was diagnosed with along with anxiety at age 14(now 25). I know I hold people to pretty high expectations and want them to be perfect but of course no one is .To be honest I’m finding this confusing because the things I put down to depression/anxiety due to the previous diagnosis seem to all be signs of BPD ,EUPD or CPTSD .

As I said earlier at age 14 (I’m now 25) I was diagnosed with depression and generalised anxiety disorder.The symptoms I had then are the same ones I have now so if I do Hhave BPD or EUPD I really don’t understand how I wasn’t diagnosed with it then .

Since the referall yesterday and this late/mossed period I have googled if social services get involved with a pregnancy if the mum is diagnosed with BPD and if they get involved with other children you may already have .That google search has made the anxiety go through the room .All I have seen is horror stories of social services using BPD as a reason to take children /babies away .so ideally this is the part I need the most reassurance on .

Also
How long is the wait list for these assessments/appointments . I'm in Wiltshire near Salisbury if that helps

Unless you've shown you're a risk to your children social services wouldn't routinely get involved.

The horror stories you read are very one sided. The threshold for social services to get involved is high, the threshold for removal is extremely high. The parents that write these stories online are never going to admit that they failed to be a good enough / safe parent.

I'm diagnosed BPD. Had 4 children with not a whiff of SS involvement. My advice is to educate yourself, practice self care as much as possible and that the symptoms tend to improve with age.

For a diagnosis, the symptoms have to be long-lasting. You're most likely to begin in your teens and be diagnosed in your 20s.

https://www.cptsd.org/forum/index.php

I can't answer your question about social services. But if you want more information about CPTSD in particular, the Out of the Storm site has a lot of info and a very supportive forum.

You wont have an assessment, and then get sectioned after. In fact, it is often seen that hospital does not help people with BPD anyway.
Treatment for BPD is in the community, and is usually in the form of 1:1 therapy and group therapy such as DBT. I am also under AWP (Wiltshire) and that was what I was offered.

Like PP have said, SS wont get involved unless you are harmful to your kids, be that outright or through neglect. A label alone is not enough for SS to get involved. I knew one lady I was in DBT with (so had BPD) had her child removed, but that was due to insisting on being with very nasty men. She was putting her relationships before her kid, and neglecting them in so many way.