Burned out and nothing helps

[Zombieof3]

I’m feeling burned out and have been for a long while, yet nothing seems to work.

I really don’t enjoy life at all anymore, especially home life which makes me feel so cruel. I dread the days my husband works as I’m stuck with the three kids, there’s arguments, mess to clean and just normal upkeep to be done but I’m absolutely done with it all.

im absolutely knackered, I feel really upset right now. I’ve taken my poor mood out on everyone already, husbands just left for work and I’m so exhausted, I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get through today.

i don’t feel like it’s work related because as bad as that sounds, work is a relief for the most part. I used to love being a mum but honestly, I haven’t enjoyed it in a long while which makes me feel absolutely awful as my children deserve much better than me. I’m so done, I feel like sobbing. I can’t keep going on. I’m on antidepressants, done a whole range of them but nothing changes me. I think it would be best if I left the home as I’m no parent anymore

Who have you told about this? How supportive is your husband?
parenting is really tough and intense and sometimes it takes us hitting a real low point to begin to make some changes that help us to get through. Without knowing more of your situation it’s hard to know what needs to change or what support you can access to help you.
we all lose our way sometimes and I don’t know a single parent who hasn’t taken their mood out on their family at some point. Please be gentle with yourself about that.

He’s really aware of what is going on, he is also struggling. The main issues is the constant feeling that we’re fighting an uphill battle with keeping the house tidy and dealing with the kids arguing. My youngest is 7 who is asd, my 8 year old daughter is the hardest by far, she purposely winds people up and then cries when it gets out of hand and my 12 year old who is just bone idle. I try and get them involved in helping out but it honestly causes more arguments than it’s worth. I feel like sobbing because it’s all just crumbling. And I can’t do this

I’m sorry, that sounds really, really tough.
Can you afford to bring in a cleaner perhaps or do you have any family nearby who can help out with the kids?
Or perhaps you and your husband can come to some sort of arrangement where you both get time to yourself at some point each week.
It won’t be like this forever, it really won’t…but I understand that when it’s like this, it feels like it will be and it’s hard to see the way out.
What do you enjoy doing? Are you looking after yourself with decent diet and exercise so you’re physically well enough for all the demands you have on you?

Right now, money is really tight and we have no one else to rely on.. we need to work a way around it, it’s just so tough.

my diet and exercise is appalling which probably doesn’t help, I just have next to no energy to cook and then rely on takeout. I’ve been unable to do anything today due to exhaustion and yet the gp did bloods and apparently everything’s fine. I’m just so tired and fed up. Makes me feel like I’m such an awful parent. I don’t know if me leaving is more or less harmful than staying

Im feeling totally the same as you chick. I'm struggling. I'm single. My son 13 Is neurodiverse and displays very high risk behaviour and aggression towards me however he's currently with his grandad temporarily after a stint of missings to give me a break which has back fired as now he is refusing to come home ANYWAY so it's me and DD who's 6 at home. I've become a hermit. I'm avoiding getting dressed. I'm avoiding life. Cancelled everything last week apart from school run and just walked around the house crying. Sick to death of the general rat race bullshit...dreading the summer holidays...

im so sorry your feeling so similar, it doesn’t feel like much of a life at all. I’m fed up of always struggling, I’m honestly fed up of everything right now. I’m not suicidal or anything like that but I don’t see the point in life. Is it just pure shite until the day we die.

You sound depressed OP, go back to the Dr and see if you can change medication. Can you self refer for counselling.

Are there any local support groups available regarding your child's disability? Are the children bored? Do they do enough exercise? They are certainly old enough to help out around the house perhaps for pocket money.

It doesn't sound as though you're looking after yourself properly. You need to overhaul your diet and get in plenty of fruit and vegetables. You can start making small changes like drinking more water and snacking on fruit.

Does your husband pull his weight around the house? Are you carrying the mental load for everyone? Can chores be divvied out more equally?

When was the last time you saw family or friends or went for a coffee? Perhaps it's time to put yourself first for a change.

Are you me? Same story. If there was a simple tablet to take I would x