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My partner keeps telling me I’m crazy

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Mumbum1990 · 12/07/2024 14:58

I’m 7 months pregnant, I have 3 children and my partner has one from a previous relationship. My youngest two are with him. I’ve always struggled with what I now am pretty sure is adhd. My partner was the typical love bombing person at the beginning. He hooked me and then treated me like crap. I kept being stupid and taking him back, and things have just kept happening to basically make me feel completely trapped. I have a terrible relationship with my parents, and at the moment I feel like I’m going crazy with feeling alone. He treats his child from a previous relationship better than our kids, which makes things really strained every time they’re here, especially when that’s what I had to deal with growing up. The last 3 weeks have been hell. I’m finding things difficult to cope with, and just can’t bite my tongue when things are upsetting me. He tells me he should kick the crap out of me, how my kids will see how much of a psycho I am, how nobody cares about me and no wonder my parents have always treated me like crap. I honestly feel so alone, and when I asked him to leave, he has outright refused. Saying he will screw me over with my benefits and make me lose everything. I’m currently losing a family member which is really messing with my head, and he keeps telling me I’m sick and wrong for being upset with him about other stuff on top of that. I just don’t know what to do anymore. He won’t leave, my financial situation is horrendous thanks to him, and even though he isn’t on the tenancy he’s trying to make me leave instead. I'm a SAHM but am trying to build my business up, I’m exhausted, and honestly not sure if it’s all me being this awful person, or if it’s him. He does cook sometimes, but I do everything else round the house… I’ve not really got any friends anymore since being with him… all my friends can’t stand him. I am just lost, he’s trying to make me think my kids are better off without me…

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WiseMenSayNothing · 12/07/2024 15:25

Partner, so you aren’t married? And he isn’t on the tenancy?
Your partner is abusive, he can be made to leave.
Ask MN to move your post to the relationships board, or re post again there, there are lots of very knowledgeable posters on there who will be able to help you step by step. I hope you can get some real life support to find a way out of this.

scotland.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/relationship_breakdown/partner_leaving

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 12/07/2024 15:27

The police?

Seaside1234 · 12/07/2024 15:42

If he's not on the tenancy he can be chucked out, I think, but sounds like you'll need a lot of help - call women's aid for advice. May end up needing the police. I'm so sorry you're going through this, please get rid of him one way or the other, and for the sake of your children as well as you, don't take him back. Be very careful just now as he sounds like he could be very dangerous, and call the police immediately if you feel at all unsafe.

Mumbum1990 · 12/07/2024 20:14

I’ve called police, who just reported it, said if anything else happens to phone them back… he’s turned up with his daughter, obviously thinking I won’t call the police if he started anything, to protect her…like has happened in the past.

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TheShellBeach · 12/07/2024 20:16

Has he ever assaulted you?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 12/07/2024 21:44

I meant the police will help if you want him out the house

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 12/07/2024 21:48

Mumbum1990 · 12/07/2024 20:14

I’ve called police, who just reported it, said if anything else happens to phone them back… he’s turned up with his daughter, obviously thinking I won’t call the police if he started anything, to protect her…like has happened in the past.

Dont let him in and phone the police again.

Balloonhearts · 13/07/2024 12:07

You are crazy. Why else would you still be with this loser?

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